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female
age
26-29,
*eilta
writes:So i've been talking to this guy for a while now. He lives in another state so we don't get to see each other often. There is definitely attraction towards eachother. We aren't dating, but we talk like if we were. So a while back i asked him if we was talking to any other girls and he said no that he was only interested in me. So while on facebook i see a girl tag him and i asked him who she was and he said she's always wanted him and stuff. So i went in trusted him, so i had a hunch and went on her face book and found her posting things about him beimg her babe and all. So should i bring this up or just cut him off. I dont want to look crazy but i just had to clear my mind and ended up finding something. So what should i do?
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reader, N91  +, writes (15 December 2016):
 You guys aren't together so surely he's able to speak to whoever he wants?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 December 2016):
 I think I'd just cut him loose. You feel like neither of you should talk to other people, he doesn't agree. And while there Is attraction between you two, there isn't a relationship going on. Just chats.
If you bring it up, it just shows how little you trust him and how little you CAN trust him.
The whole "she wants me" was his way of deflecting your question. He wasn't exactly honest, was he? It's not just HER liking him, he is OBVIOUSLY OK with her posting stuff about them her on Facebook.
But instead of starting anything "dramatic" I'd just cut bait and leave. Block and unfriend him.
And next time you are thinking about having a relationship, maybe consider a guy who is close enough that you can meet up and get to know each other IN person, be part of each other's REAL lives, not just on FB.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (15 December 2016):
 So as a long distance girl friend, what do you have to offer that she can't give him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2016): He's really not your boyfriend, he's just a friend. He has no reason not to speak to other girls. He has no control over what people post about him, and if you're snooping around to see if he's lying; you're the one with the problem.
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