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writes:I wrote a post on here yesterday about my boyfriend cheating on me. I'm still extremely hurt by this as it is all new and fresh. He won't take my phone calls because he is so incredibly angry that I ended things with him.I guess he expected a pat on the back and a gold sticker for what he had done. I want him to stop being so selfish and realize what he has done to me.Last but not least, I need closure. I need to be free from this trapped relationship I have been in for the past eight months. I've been run down and I am truly exhausted.But before I do move on - what I need to say has to be said or else I cannot move on, because I will always wonder, what would of happened if I would of let him know how I truly felt.Since he won't take my phone calls, I don't know how to pursue this. I definitely don't want to go over there and see him face to face without his consent, in case he shuts me down because that will be extremely embarrassing!Alot of my friends have suggested that I write him a letter and drop it off, and have everything I need to say in it. But I'm afraid this will make me look like an crazy ex girlfriend who just won't let it go! What do you guys think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all your advice. I have wrote the letter, but I haven't decided on whether or not I am going to give it to him yet. It felt good to write down all my feelings done on paper but I know it would feel even better if he knew how I felt too.Regardless of your advice, I know it's ulimately up too me whether or not I will go through it.I'm trying to be strong through out this whole process but every morning I wake up feeling like I just want to run over there and hug him one last time or I just want to pick up the phone and call him, but I know I can't.I wish this was all a dream and I could wake up from it and things would go back to the way it use to be.I guess I have to face the facts..Thank you all.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (15 July 2009):
 I think the letter is a good idea, but don't drop it off post it.
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reader, huraiva  +, writes (15 July 2009):
 Im sorry your boyfriend cheated on you, However from your age listed here, it looks like you are still very young, and im guessing he is the same.While strong feelings and even love can and do develop at such a young age, the lack of maturity on both side can and does cause problems like this.My advice would be to write a letter to him, outlining everything you want him to know, all of your feelings, thoughts and opinions. But you dont necessarily have to send it ! Sometimes even just getting all your feelings down can help a lot in these situations.No matter what happens, in the end you have to remember that relationships are a rocky business for the best of us, and unfortunatly heartbreaks do happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): i think letters are written depending on age.. i think this guy is immature and would probably make fun of u if u were to put your feelings down on paper
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reader, Jayney Y +, writes (15 July 2009):
 I would wait a few weeks until you're not so upset, and then if you still feel like unburdening yourself, go ahead. Or write the letter but just keep it for yourself. When someone behaves like a creep, it's sometimes best to just take their actions at face value rather than search for excuses for them, otherwise you can just end up making a fool of yourself and regretting it later when you get over them and see the person for what they are. It's a horrible experience, but unfortunately it's one of life's crappy lessons. Good luck :)
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reader, Basschick +, writes (15 July 2009):
 Write the letter. It will help you heal and perhaps force him to see himself through someone else's eyes. In this case, it's the best way to tell someone how you feel without argument or interruption. After that, you should move on. He's done enough damage to your self esteem already. xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): I agree with Samii, he does have some nerve if he is getting angry with you! Write the letter if that's what makes you feel better. Say what you need to say and don't look back. Don't write things you know you don't mean and do NOT chase him after!!I'm glad you have finally dumped this pathetic loser!! Even though you are anon. I know who you are and I've read tons and tons of posts about you and this guy.Be strong girlie!! I promise it will get better in time.He may think you are a crazy ex girlfriend but you aren't and everybody knows it. He will come to realize that when the next girl drops him on his ass and doesn't even call to tell him it's over.Peace and Love.
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