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writes:Dear friends, I have come here in the past for your much needed advice and you have been so wonderful and thoughtful to respond each time. My question is in part short, it's something the man in my life emailed me a few days ago. This man wants to marry me as he has said so many times. Right now his business is failing as is so many others in today's economy. You see I wrote him a love poem via email and he responded with gratefulness. There is however one thing he mentioned in the email that I don't quite understand fully. Among telling me how much I mean to him and how I am his life, here's the part in which he said and I quote... "I feel restrained in my plans to make even more of a commitment to you" un-quote! Now this of course is just a tiny segment of what was actually mentioned in his response. Can someone please translate what the above quote really means... I'm not certain if he's trying to tell me that financially he can't afford a ring right now or if what he said means something else. We live for one another and have a unique bond but this sentence has me scratching my head. Could anyone please advise on what you think it means. I love him no matter what, I'm just perplexed over this one little thing he wrote. May I just say I have the highest respect for those of you that take the time to read and respond. Thank you, I hope someone can help? Reply to this Question
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (4 December 2009):
why can't you just ask him via email so that he doesnt feel put on the spot to respond? Eg. " darling, in your last email you said..... Please can you explain to me what you meant my darling. I want our relationship to be open where we can be 100% honest with each other at all times. So i dont want to tell myself 1000 different things when you can just clear it up for me."
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 December 2009):
I would suggest that at this moment in time, he is very worried about his financial situation, and doesn't want to drag you into any mess. I don't think it's anything other than that. If you are worried, why don't you gently try talking to him about how he's feeling at the moment. I think he's worried he's going to be in more trouble soon, and doesn't want you getting too close in case he fails.
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