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writes:Hey I am 13 and I have never had a boyfriend. I don't know what to do. Please help me.
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reader, sexy sean  +, writes (23 July 2009):
Patience is the key,be patient and your heart desires would be granted
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reader, lucylu!  +, writes (22 July 2009):
 hey, i know how you feel i felt so lost and lonely. I watched my friends date. Im nearly 15 and i have noticed life is not all about boyfriends. I have been out with one guy he was a waste of time so i get on with my life by enjoying every minute of it. Find a job, hang with friends, go out have fun. Dont rush into relationships they dont work out(thats what i have learnt)
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reader, lucylu! +, writes (22 July 2009):
hey, i know how you feel i felt so lost and lonely. I watched my friends date. Im nearly 15 and i have noticed life is not all about boyfriends. I have been out with one guy he was a waste of time so i get on with my life by enjoying every minute of it. Find a job, hang with friends, go out have fun. Dont rush into relationships they dont work out(thats what i have learnt)
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reader, alwyzsmilin431 +, writes (30 November 2008):
i didnt have my first real boyfriend until i was 14 and it was the most perfect thing ever i was so glad i never rushed anything because from our first kiss to our first i love you it was all absolutly perfect. relationships can be amazing but only when you find the person you really want to be with
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): Okay, I am 14 nearly 15 and have never had a boyfriend, I don't think much of it, my friends have had some, the thing is, you really have to know someone before getting into a relationship with them. Yo say you need a boyfriend, but really you don't, you'll be fine with your friends, no body really needs one, but you fall in love, thats the way it works as guys don't need girlfriends, they just fall in love, everyone does, you will have a boyfriend one day, but for now, enjoy life without one, and I promise you will get one, day, it won't happen overnight, but one day, you will :D
Hope this helped
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (25 March 2008):
 Ahhh, wishing for partnership. I know that feeling!
I was like you. Perhaps even a little older than you when I first felt like that. At 15 certainly I would have given anything to have been in a relationship. I had never been in one. I didn't have a relationship until I was 16 years old, and even that was a long distance one. I had 2 years of happiness from it, and never wanted it to end.
It's at this point I want to mention that; an advantage of not falling in love just yet is that you don't have to endure heartbreak either. Getting my heartbroken was probably the worst thing that happened in my life. It's 9 months to the day since I felt the sting of heartbreak and I still haven't completely recovered from it. I wouldn't wish it on anybody, but sadly everybody goes through it.
So, I understand how you feel. But as somebody who has been there and done that, I advise you enjoy the things that being a young adult brings while you can. Don't try and rush in to a relationship, because it happens when you don't expect it. And it will happen, just not yet.
Be patient, and enjoy your youth :)
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reader, grumpy1359 +, writes (25 March 2008):
 I am 13 and i just go mi first bf 5 months ago but i dumped him cause he wasnt what i was looking 4 so DONT RUSH IT trust me i know
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reader, lezlie  +, writes (25 March 2008):
hey anonymous...i was 13 not so long ago(4 years to be exact..)i know most of your friends are probably dating already,you hear gossip but yet you feel left out..first of all i wanna say that there is NOTHING wrong with u,as most girls think there is when they dont have a boyfriend...your great just the way you are..my advice is that there is no rush,you're only 13...i had my first boyfriend at 11 and i regret it..its too young..right now maybe you should have fun with your girlfriends,scope out the type of boys you think you would like as a boyfriend..and then when you make the decision to not settle for anything less,go for it!remember,have respect for yourself and the rest will come easy..good luck!
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reader, lilemostar +, writes (25 March 2008):
 Honey your only thirteen! You have your whole life ahead of you! Why do you 'need' a boyfriend?
When I was your age I remember me and my friends putting ourselves together with boys and being really immature about it. Yes we did have boyfriends because we felt we needed them but looking back I feel we missed out on more important stuff such as our studies and having fun.
I didnt have my first serious boyfriend til I was 14. We lasted for nearly a year and Im glad I didnt have to deal with those emotions til I was a bit more mature.
Wait honey. The right guy will come to you. IN the mean time enjoy your youth.
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reader, kenny +, writes (25 March 2008):
 You are only 13, there is absolutely no rush for you to get a boyfriend, you have all the time in the world. Calm down abit and take things in your stride, enjoy being young, have a laugh with your mates and have a good time. I am a great believer that we find our potential partners when we are not looking for them, so chill out and i bet you will get a guy when you very least expect it.
All the best & good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): Hun, theres really no rush! Why do you NEED a boyfriend? It doesn't matter if you haven't had a boyfriend yet trust me. I didn't have my first serious boyfriend until I was 17 and I'm glad I waited for him to find me instead of rushing and being with someone who isn't special for the sake of having a boyfriend. Annalisa is right, being friends with boys is the first step but when the time is right for you to have a boyfriend, you will have a boyfriend. Just be patient and enjoy being young! Have fun and stop worrying, these things will come to you, you don't need to chase after them. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): I remember at that age that having a boyfriend/girlfriend was a big thing. When I approached the situation (the girl the other girls were trying to get us together), I recognized that she was as interested in the whole idea as I were. We both remained friends and didn't participate in the immature game of our other friends. When we got to high school, we each found someone who really meant something to us, and not because someone else is doing it and we all need to follow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): you have to weat if you real need a true love and God will give you your love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): I can understand how you feel, I felt that way when I was a little younger. I know everyone tells you that you have ages to find a boyfriend blah blah blah. But it is irritating when you think you're ready and everyone else around you has a boyfriend!
However, I think the best thing to do is wait for someone who you actually like.. Cos if you just want a boyfriend you may end up going out with someone who you don't actually fancy! And then it gets awkward with breaking up and stuff- not good :-S
So just wait until you find someone that you like and it'll feel that much nicer knowing you are with someone where there are mutual feelings- and you won't regret waiting for it :-)
xx Hope xx
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