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I moved to be with the man I love, now I have no options

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Question - (6 August 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 19 August 2009)
A male France age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Well, here we go , I am gay who was working flight attendant for one of the best airlines in the world , my life was good , not perfect , but I was me , myself , I was satisfied , but there was something missing which is Love hehe

I found the love , but my lover was living in Australia , and I live in Europe , too far for me ,

But I reached a level that I cant live with out him , so I had to scarified in everything I had

I decide to move to Australia but since gay marriage illegal here, I decided to come on student visa , then we will manage what we do , he said he is not going to leave me

He Just found me , I am different than any one else in the world

I am his boy , his love , Dream land

Well , I moved to live with my love , hehe , he brought me to the live one month , then he killed me

He did

Ignoring , he doest want me , he keep avoiding me , he doesn’t want sex , he doesn’t respect me , never took me out ,

Uh , I am half of his age , I am 27 and he 48 ,

I talked to him many times , but nothing , no response , he has his view about relationships ( flatmates ) no more Just Dinner and TV

He clarified to me , If you wanna move go , don’t wait , but you are more than welcome to stay , he said am not responsible of you , of your entertainment , I wanna live my life as its and you must find hobby or something

Go and do your things , I don’t care , if you like clubbing go , I wont go ,

I asked him do you love me

He said yes but not the way you do, and by the way you have to love me less because once you finish your study ( one year left )

I may not sponsor you , or we might have unsuccessful application , so don’t dream too much then you will be disappointed , this is the reality

But the bastard he can do it , its just laws , but I wont , I had enough

Now , I live with him, I wanna break up but I cant , maybe my heart did but didn’t tell him yet

No place to move in , I work with him , I don’t have money and its hard for me to get job with these recessions . and I don’t know anybody here

I cant go back to my country cuz I paid my saving for my degree , and I wanna get it

And my parents would neglect me if I came back with out degree

I tried to back to the airline I have rejected , no options

And I don’t want this life

I am broken guys , I am thinking of killing my self

I have no body to talk with

I keep crying all the time

I lost my favourite career my money my family , away from home , friends

Living with evil lier , I hate him to the death , slave under his ass

What shall I do

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Back to my country ,

I am frozen in his house , he is evil

Plz guys help me

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009):

thanks guys for ur support

he was faster than me , i didnt do anything for him

i was Just name and i will do ... but ,

he fired me from work and he said the higher manager doesnt want you lier lier cuz i called the company and they said its him ? i didnt tell him yet

and he broke up with me , assuming that i am not the right one

so why u brought me here ?

hehe , he said you can stay in my place as long as you need

he just wanted to kill me

i will finish my degree and go back

and it was great lesson in my life

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A male reader, philipgifts United States +, writes (19 August 2009):

philipgifts agony auntI think you should stick it out for your degree at least. Make some friends. If you have time chat with people on here. And put the idea of suicide out of your head. Go for a run, after running for five min. you'll feel happier. Especially if your depressed you should go for runs." And smile can trick the body into being happy, lowers the blood pressure, even makes the immune system faster. Studies have shown that smiling releases endorphins, natural pain killers, and serotonin. Together these three make us feel good. Smiling is a natural drug." And it can help prevent the cold and flue.Try this test: Smile. "Now try to think of something negative without losing the smile. It's hard. When we smile our body is sending the rest of us a message that "Life is Good!" Stay away from depression, stress and worry by smiling."

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009):

Wow, it does sound like you are a slave. But, its not to him but to your own pity. No wonder he does not want to do things with you if you are so needy. No one wants someone that needs them for everything. If you want this relationship to work you have to be willing to be strong, capable, and self sufficient. Otherwise why would anyone want you? I am sorry if I sound harsh, but it does sound as if you need a harsh dose of reality. You are not a child stop thinking and behaving like one or you will just continue having this type of rejection in all your relationships. You are NOT a victim. Stop trying to be. Take responsibility for your own actions and for your own feelings. Grow up and realize your own strengths and worth.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009):

ohhh i'm so sorry you have learnt the hard way. move back to your country and show this guy you can live without him. there will be a guy perfect for you, just not this one...good luck

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