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writes:I would just like to know, why it is every time i tell him that i love him he says thank you or i know.... Does he not believe me, does he not feel the same about me? Its really starting to get to me.... Thanx :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi guys! I have an up date! Firstly, thank you all very much for all the positive support, it really means a lot to me.... I spoke to him on thursday night, he actually phoned me and asked if we could go out cause he misses me.... Rear actually. Anyways so we went out and we talk a bit about every day things and then i told him that i wanted to speak to him about what was bothering me... He said i dont have anything to worry cause I'll always be his princess and his not running away without me.. I should rather be positive, see and feel if he loves me, words cant really say much... I think it might just be the fact that his planning on a better future in nz... I guess i'm just afraid he might leave me here.... He said that the first year and half might be a bit hard but it will all workout... He will be going soon for 3 weeks and then come back for a period of time and then go for 3 months and come back and so on.. He also said that when every thing with the new business in nz comes right we can then go to the north pole...lol.. Nz could be whats bothering me so much...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi guys! I have an up date! Firstly, thank you all very much for all the positive support, it really means a lot to me.... I spoke to him on thursday night, he actually phoned me and asked if we could go out cause he misses me.... Rear actually. Anyways so we went out and we talk a bit about every day things and then i told him that i wanted to speak to him about what was bothering me... He said i dont have anything to worry cause I'll always be his princess and his not running away without me.. I should rather be positive, see and feel if he loves me, words cant really say much... I think it might just be the fact that his planning on a better future in nz... I guess i'm just afraid he might leave me here.... He said that the first year and half might be a bit hard but it will all workout... He will be going soon for 3 weeks and then come back for a period of time and then go for 3 months and come back and so on.. He also said that when every thing with the new business in nz comes right we can then go to the north pole...lol.. Nz could be whats bothering me so much...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009): If hes saying i know and thank you hes wither scared or embarased in saying it back to you or hes doesnt love you.
You should ask him.youll get your answer!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009): If you've been in the habit of texting him every hour and asking to msee him every day the chances are he's been feeling rather smothered if not suffocated. I know I would be!
Back off a bit. Maximum 2 texts per day. Let him breathe. Leave it to him to ask when he's going to see you. I think you'll find the result is that he'll suddenly seem an awful lot more keen on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all very very much.... That makes me feel so much better :) i have not really spoken to him today, i would normally text him every hour or so, but today i never did, a new change i guess, he phoned around 2 asking if i was okay.... We spoke for a while and then i asked the question that sometimes turns everything around, 'will i see you today' he said he does not know as he is still working but he will see, he said.. I want to give him space i feel i'm holding him down to much or something and want to give him breathing space.... I'm lost and confused.... Every time i want to talk to him, he says I'll always be his special princess and i worry to much i just need to relax.... Everything will be fine...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009): I'm sorry he's had to go through that, I think you're doing a great job of sticking by his side. As I said, I don't think he is ready to say it back as he's been emotionally scarred by his ex wife. He may love you but is scared of telling you because of what happened in the past and doesn't want his feeling to be known incase he gets hurt again. I also think this will be a slow recovery, perhaps he could go to counselling?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHopefully this will give some more light.... He was married for to 2 years to a rather amazing women, although she cheated on him.... And she ended everything, told him she never really loved him and she made a mistake marrying him.. I know, well of course that will kill anyone, emotionally, i have been dating him now for a year and a half, i have been the only other women in his life after his ex-wife.... 'i managed to crawl under his skin' he told me a while ago.... I can remember he also told me that he wishes he could normal again and capable of loving again. I'm sure it was not easy and i have been trying really hard to make him feel wanted and loved, rather put his needs before my own, it has not been easy at all, as he has his own weird difference to everyone else.... He would sometimes get upset with me for the smallest little things ever.... Maybe i'm trying to hard, or not trying hard enough.... I really do love him very much and just want the best for him....
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reader, americanchild  +, writes (6 August 2009):
ask him
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009): I'm going to assume he is your boyfriend. I think that is just a polite way of responding, as he's not ready to say it back yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009): I would have thought that he would tell you he loved you too - if he does. Maybe he thinks it's a sissy thing to say, but it sounds like he's holding back from saying it for whatever reason.
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reader, summeramber  +, writes (6 August 2009):
hi, sorry to just blurt this out but haveyou ever thought that he does not feel the same way about you and because h knows you love him he doesnt want to hurt by telling you he doesnt feel the same way.talk to him and found out how he is feeling good look
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