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41-50,
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writes:Three years ago I fell deeply in love with a guy I found most attractive. The feelings were mutual and we moved in together 12 weeks later. Life was good. I was happy and he was too. The sex was great and everything was fabulous. However, things changed 2 and a half years later when his job transferred him to the UK. Natuarally I packed up my bags and my daughters and moved with him. I left my family and friends for him. He promised that things would be good. We've been living in the UK for 6 months now, I'm four months pregnant with no job or friends and I can't see much good in our relationship any more. He has started to become too predictable for me. He much prefers to spend his time in the pub. Straight there from work, weekends, afternoons. At home he watches TV, we hardly talk and we don't do anything on weekends and I don't know what to do anymore. Does anyone have any advice for me? Do I make sense?
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (8 August 2008):
 Your "in love" experience is going away and he's not talking your love language to fill your love tank.
If I judge on what I'm seeing here, you're love language is "Quality time" meaning that if someone want to show you their love, they have to do something with you.
Now if this is the case, and he's not talking your love languages. The best thing to do would probably start by initiating activities for both of you. "Picnic this week-end? I'll make sandwich!", "Want to go to a restaurant to chat?"
When someone is clueless of the other love language, sometime it help to show them the way. Maybe when he will see your big smile after a successful chat at the restaurant that he will say to himself "Wow, that really did her some good!" and will start doing activities with you.
Since I do not know what's your love language for sure, you may want to buy the book that I have.
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reader, Deema +, writes (6 August 2008):
 How about start making a life for yourself? I know you're pregnant and may be dependent on him, but you can still go out there and meet people, have fun and live a little. By taking some small steps to make yourself happy, you may see you are not so dependent on him as you believe youare. Then after the baby is born you can get work, get yourself sorted and decide what you really want. Good luck hun. There are always choices, nothing is forever.
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