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36-40,
*ndy00
writes:Hi all, just a quick question... well, quick by my standards anywayDuring the summer, I dated a girl for a couple of months. We had a nice time together, we really developed feelings for eachother in the short time period. When the end of the summer came and I had to go back to university far from her we parted ways. I was pretty distraught for a couple of days, until a new girl landed into my life, something I have not been used to. Anytime I have experienced heartbreak it has taken me a long period of time to find somebody else.2 weeks after meeting my girlfriend of 6 months now, my girlfriend requested we make our relationship official over facebook. I protested to begin with because I didn't want to hurt my ex, but after asking on here, people encouraged me to show dedication to my new relationship and separation from my ex. After my ex found out she was obviously upset. She displayed this by taking shots at my masculinity, by saying sex between us was rubbish and short all the time. I told her where to go and blocked her and haven't spoken to her since.I still feel bad for what happened to her. I know what I did wasn't completely right, but to this day I still care about what she, her friends and her family think about me. I don't want to be hated for my actions, even though in all likelihood I won't see any of them again, so why does it bother me?Was I wrong? Should I feel bad?... Should I care?
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (4 April 2010):
Andy00 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for the answers, they've really helped put things in perspective. I don't know why this is on my mind today, but answers like these certainly help me make peace with myself.
Since you asked Auntie E, I said from the start I was against a long distance relationship. Admittedly my feelings of grief after we parted company made me lean towards it a little, but I wouldn't have said it promised anything. All we were maybe going to do was cut contact or remain friends, and in the end it seems we lost a potential friendship and contact as well. It's a shame.
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reader, Auntie E  +, writes (3 April 2010):
 Did you promise your ex anything at all, a LDR maybe? If not you were not wrong. She is the one who should feel bad. What a bitch - to take pot shots at your masculinity on FB? That's just nasty! NO! You should not care unless you promised her something else. Concentrate on your current girlfriend. Keep ex blocked.
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