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writes:Hello Cupid,I have lived in the state where I was born for many years but I decided I wanted to move on and see something new and different so I took it up on myself and left exboyfriends, friends, associates.The whole nine years behind me.Now that I have moved on the people that I know don't really want to converse with me anymore.Seems they feel like I made my choice by moving on with my life.I don't feel like I messed up. I feel like I saved myself from the harsh lifestyle that I was living. It was no good.What they don't understand is I may be in a another state by I am the same person just with a better way of living my life.I really feel sad at times because I thought we were friends and most importantly my family there treats me the same way they answer the phone talking dry like to say what do you want or I will call you back never do their phone go straight to voicemail,or have the smaller kids to answer the phone saying momma's not home I really don't understand:(help
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2013): No from the first day I left I kept in contact with everybody they just didn't want to talk to me anymore but hey it's fine I am a grown woman with a lot of dreams that will be fore filled glad I moved on.Actuallly you find out who your friends are when you turn your back .Thanks
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reader, ihavetoomanythoughts  +, writes (11 March 2013):
 Has it been nine years since you contacted them? If you haven't kept in touch with them for so long, then you are just a stranger to them so of course there really isn't anything to talk about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2013): "grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference"
I'm not sure what you were leaving that was not healthy for you, but that's the decision that you made for yourself, and your family should respect that. If there is something you did that is causing them to act this way, perhaps you can try to make amends, if not... well... the quote that I wrote is one I use a lot. Sometimes in life there are bridges that fall all by themselves or break outside our control. you have to decide what the steps are that you are willing to take to rebuild them, what steps you aren't willing to take. but don't let things you can't change eat you up inside, at the end of the day, did you do what was right? (from your post, you said it was a positive life change, so yes) it's not your fault if people want to misunderstand
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