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writes:Hi ive been with my boyfriend for 8 months. I don't know whether im definitely happy with him, but he's always saying he loves me and wants to marry me an how i'm his soulmate and hes been saying these things since we started going out!He seems so happy when we're together, he's very loud and has a very strong personality, but he always thinks he's right when we are talking. I feel like i'm a bit timid around him, which isnt like me! Like i feel like I cant stand up to my beliefs because he always has to be right, so I just let it go before he starts to argue about it. I this normal? Also we work together and there's this girl that I'm very jealous of and he knows I am. Shes extremely flirty with guys and gets up close to them and my boyf and her get on very well. Its got to the point now where when the 3 of us are on shift together he'll try not to talk to her so much. And i feel like i'm watching to make sure he doesnt. I hate it. I feel really bad for stopping him talking to her in front of me. it makes me feel like absolute rubbish and I dont want to be that person. but at the same time i really dont want him to talk to her, because they get on so well.Is this all normal? Thank you for your advise x
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (11 March 2013):
Yes i can understand your situation its not easy.First of all you are a person in your own RIGHT,have your opinions and voice them your boyfriend cant be right all the time.Also he should respect you as his girlfriend and not flirt with this other girl. Have a chat with him and explain your feelings to him and hopefully things will improve. Best Luck Nora B.
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reader, ihavetoomanythoughts  +, writes (11 March 2013):
 If you can't make your opinion heard in a relationship, then I can't say that your partner is interested in you as a person... Of course, there are a lot of people out there who do initially think they are right about something. This stubbornness is quite normal I think. It only becomes a problem if they NEVER EVER admit they are wrong even though there are facts which suggest that they are wrong. That's a problem because no matter what, you'll always be wrong. You have to figure out if he's just being stubborn or if he can't admit defeat.
Also, your boyfriend does seem considerate in that he tries not to speak to the girl at work BUT what does he do when you're not there? This is where you have to decide if you trust him or not. If you trust him and his judgement, then you should try to feel less threatened by the girl. She can make all the moves she likes but it won't matter a bit if he doesn't reciprocate.
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