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writes: Hey y'all, I'm 17, I'm from a small town in the south of Missouri.I'm gay (Closeted) and my biggest fear is that I'll never find the right person in life. I know I'm young, but what if I never leave this town? What if when I turn 30 all my friends are married and having babies and I still ain't had my first kiss yet? What if I miss out on life and love? Reply to this Question
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reader, Abella  +, writes (11 March 2013):
 Hi
I think the key is broadening your vision. The world is a big place. There are cities and communities where gay is accepted as one more variation in the scheme of life. Where you don't have to remain closeted to gain acceptance.
Start planning your life now in terms of studies and interests that will allow you to pursue some travel in your life in the future. Either travel for pleasure or domestic travel for work reasons.
If you want to remain in a smaller town for the rest of your life then you may be limiting your opportunities for love.
Could you handle living and working in a big city?
If you are prepared to study with a view to a career that could take you in interesting directions?
Once you are in a community where being gay is just one more variation then you will find a more accepting atmosphere.
Besides your career consider developing some hobbies that will give you great pleasure. Not only will your hobbies sustain you, they will also show more of your personality expressed through your hobbies.
And be conversation points when someone is getting to know you.
Keeping fit is important too.
When you do get to live in a city do join a gym and/or a swimming club. And take up cycling as a sport. Sporting activities are another great way to meet other guys who are on your wave length.
You will find love. At 30 you will look back on your teens and wonder how you could ever have doubted that you would
find love.
My best wishes to you
Abella
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