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writes:I miss my best friend. Last summer she met a new girlfriend who is very possessive - she doesn't like my friend spending time with me on her own and when I see the two of them, I am ignored all the time. I was in a car accident before Christmas - not too bad but bad enough. When I texted my friend to tell her, she just replied, "I'm sorry to hear that." didn't even ask if I was OK. Now I haven't seen her for 4 months and I miss her a lot. I find it very difficult to make friends, and she was my only one. I haven't been out socially since early December and I'm really lonely. Please don't tell me to go join clubs/church groups etc because I've tried that and still people ignore me as I'm quite shy. I just miss my friend and I want her back in my life.
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reader, SweetSmoochy  +, writes (10 April 2011):
 Your friend has moved herself out of your life. I know how painful that is, but there really isn't anything you can do to make her change. She's her own person. Like Bobbyjo said, work on your own self confidence and open your heart up to new people. You may be so distraught about missing your friend that you are completely overlooking new friend possibilities. Best of Luck and feel better
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reader, Bobbyjo +, writes (10 April 2011):
 To be totally honest with you, it sounds like you are better off without her. You dont miss HER, you miss having a friend. Now, youve said that people ignore you because you are shy. Well then its time to start being confident. And if you cant act confident then you can fake it. Just talk to people, about everything and anything, take an interest in them and their lives, lend a listening ear and offer advice. You will soon find that people will want to start being around you. Trust me, if your friend can only reply 'sorry to hear that' when youve just told her youve been in accident then Im sorry that is no friend. Like I said, you miss having A friend, not The friend. You seem like a nice, genuine person and I really believe that you would make a good friend to people. You need to believe that too. Let go of this one, and start focusing on making the friendships that you deserve.
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