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41-50,
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writes:I just found out that I have a half brother. I think he's still only a baby, but I don't know. I found out by myself, my dad (whose child it is) doesn't know that I know.My mum and dad split up before I was born and my dad lives in a different country. I don't have that much to do with him, but every now and then he makes an effort.I've always wanted to have a better relationship with him but as an incredibly shy person, I find it difficult to think of anything to say to him. On top of that, many people have always felt that it should have been more his responsibility to make an effort during my child hood. I always assumed that he'd tell me if he got married or had any other kids. But apparently not.I don't know how to react or how to feel about this. I'm just emotional, but I'm not sure, in what way, I don't know if I'm sad, angry, maybe a little happy that I'm not an only child, I'm pretty sure that I'm confused.But what should I do? Should I confront my dad? I'd feel kinda weird about it, and it'd take me a while to get the courage, but I don't know if it's the right thing to do or not.Should I ask my grandparents? I see them once a year, so I know them better then I know him.Any advice would be great.
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reader, setanta +, writes (20 April 2011):
Heyyy, i feel you should find out and get to know this child because i feel if you dont youll always be wondering and just torturing yourself wondering what if, he is your half brother , so a part of you is in him, secondly talk to ur grand parents first, they would know, i take it by grand paents you mean your dads parents, if it is talk to them, i feel no one will get angry or upset and its perfectly natural for anyone to want to get to know this baby, if it was me , i would...but it hink rather than going in head first , talk to your grand parents but i feel you should see your dad then after that and get to know ur brother, other wise youll regret it, i think if u look into ur heart, you truely want to see him, hope this helps :-) i have a question here too somewhere, if u can give ur advise for mine , that would be cool :-)
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