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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Ok,I know you all have probaly heard this story before. But here it goes, my girlfriend asked me for some time and space almost three weeks ago after a year and 3months. It started with me pushing for some answers as it related to our intimacy issues and asking why she had been short with me at times. She cried and I comforted her with the reassurance that it did not affect how I felt about her and that i loved her. A week later she called me very sad, and i went over and she told me that she did not know why she did the things she did, that she felt like she was not my number one priority, and she did not knw why we did not discuss things that people do that have been together as long as we have and that she needed time and space to think about everything. i was a dear in the headlights, and was scared and did not give her the reassurances that she needed. two days later i went back and put my heart out there, she told me that she missed me and that she could not stop thinking about me but she still needed time and space. i did not hear from her for a week, then she called and we hung out and kissed and told each other that we loved each other and what we had been through the previous week, but she still needed time and space. the next day she called and wanted to go to dinner, we did and it was akward then she took me home and rather than drop me off she parked and I invited her in, and we she told me she did not know if she could be with me right now and i told her that was okay and that i loved her and would wait for her, we cried for a long time and made many apologies to one another about not doing the little things and complacency. The next day i brough her flowers and told her that I loved her,and we talked for a half an hour and she told i know you want to see me, but I still need time and space. I know that she has left town both weekends, and that she really did not tell anyone very quickly about what happened. It has now been 9 days since I have heard from her, I have told her of my intentions and have tried to be mindful of her space. One her best friends said that she thought that this would work out and she missed me, and told her that i balanced her out and that she loved me and was confused but did not want to see anyone else. Please help, what should i do? I missher so much my heart feels like it is going to explode, I don't what to do????/
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reader, isolated  +, writes (20 October 2007):
This sounds like she is confused and maybe interested in someone else but doesn't want to loose you until she knows that its worth it. To keep you lingering is a cowards safety net she wants to get on with her life whilst keeping you in the hope that you can get back together therefor not getting on with your life, then if things dont work out for her she can step back into the relationship and you will be all too happy to have her. As difficult as it is and this i know because i have been there get on with your life, keep busy and stop contact with her altogether this way she will know that you are not a doormat. If you really want to get back with her leave it for a while and believe me if she wants you as soon as she cant have you she will come running. Good luck
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (18 October 2007):
There is nothing you can do except wait for her. My suspicion is she is meeting at new guy. There is nothing you can do except wait for her. Just might work out for you.
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