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writes:Forgive me for how some of this question might sound, but I'm a little concerned. I really miss my girlfriend, who left me not so long ago because our relationship became long distance. Now I feel like I'll never love anybody like her again. I miss her personality. I miss her laugh. I miss her body. I miss our intimate moments. I miss special times we had together. I miss basically everything we had. I guess you could say I miss her, and I miss what I had with her.Please tell me, has anybody else ever had this, and been completely wrong, as I wish to be?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2007): My story is a little different, I was the one that called it quits. She took it okay, and at first I was happy with it all. But when I got home that night I realised what I'd done. It was a hige mistake. Found myself a rebound girl the next week, and had great sex, but there was nothing in it, I didn't love her like my other girl. I wanted her back, but felt so damn bad for dumping her in the first place to find soemthing more exciting. After a few months of breaking up things weren't any better. I took a punt and just left a message on her voicemail asking if she'd like to meet up for lunch. I figured I had nothing more too lose seeing as she was already gone and I didn't care if I looked like an ass it meant I'd get her back! She called me back the next day, and we met up. It took a while for things to get back to the norm, but when they did we had an even stronger bond than ever.Mate, don't listen to them when they till you that you can never get back with your ex. If you miss her, make contact. Just like me before, you have nothing else to lose!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2007): I hear you. While everyone will tell you they know you hurt and you need to move on, it means nothing when you're longing to rekindle the relationship you'd lost. It's true as they say that time is your friend in this case, but it will never remove the memories you hold dear.
A few years ago I was with a wonderful man that I loved with all my heart. He decided to break things off after 3 years together claiming that he was bored with our relationship, and it turned out that he was interested in pursuing another woman he'd met through a work contact. I was crushed, although I agreed that things were pretty stale and have always been under the belief that if you love someone you'll let them go.
It took over a year before I found someone else. I kept thinking of what I could have done to make things better, and whether he would ever give me another chance? I tried dating other men, but everytime I'd sit in a restaurant with another man, I'd be thinking about how things would have been had he been the person sitting across the table for me.
When I close my eyes I can still feel him, smell him and hear him. I feel like I lost my soul mate. Even though he's gone for good, it reminds me that I've experienced something good in my life. Even though its far too late to try and re-establish a relationship, I'd do it all over again if I could.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2007): I know you are hurting, but I don't really understand your question about being wrong about how you feel.
Feelings are facts, it is what it is and you feel it because you miss her....to ask if anyone else has ever felt this way, every one feels this way when they are broken up with someone they love, ESPECIALLY WHEN IT WASN'T THEIR CHOICE. ......
The thing you have to understand though is that she does not deserve your low feelings, and wallowing in self pity (yes you are feeling very sorry for yourself) will not bring her back or keep your love for her alive, it will only cause you unbearable pain.
So, you need to retrain your brain because this is really the source of your feelings, you are running a non-stop tape in your head over losing her. Everytime you start to mope around, pick up the phone and call a buddy or a family member and don't bore them with your pity party, but ask them to converse with you about their own lives, and get out of the house and do something enjoyable.....do this every time you feel bad or go work out, excercise is a great way to feel better as it raises your endorphins which are good feelings brain chemicals and it will also make you look better and feel better about yourself.
When you are back to you, less depressed with a smile on your face, you are going to be so hot that you will have to beat the girls away with a stick, and then you can choose another love for yourself, there will be one or two trust me.....and you will have what you had before, and it will be different but it will be good, and you just have to keep at it and try to enjoy life and dating, no one died here, you will be OK in time.
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reader, Farcar  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 You're ok! Really! You obviously have felt a lot for this girl and that is completely normal. As cliche as it sounds, the only thing that is going to make the biggest difference is a little time. All those familiar things that you are missing are the habits you have grown accustomed to and you are probably doubting yourself, thinking there is NO ONE iN THE WORLD that will ever make you feel the same. Reality is, you may never feel exactly the same (as all people are different), but there is definitely plenty of people out there that will make you feel different (and better). You just have to get out there and give it a chance.
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reader, superbunny +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Sweetie, my heart goes out to you. I sort of experienced this a couple of months ago. I broke up with a boyfriend I had been seeing for a couple of years. I missed all our little in-jokes, the silly things that reminded me of him, the intimate things, every single thing... There's no real answer, you obviously cared deeply for this girl + those feelings don't just go away over night, but they will gradually dull down a little, I promise you - it will hurt less the more time that goes by.
You could be wrong, but you are still young + I am sure the break will do you well. If you're meant to be with her, your paths will cross again - for now, enjoy yourself but I know that's easier said than done.
Sorry I couldn't be more help, I hope everything works out okay. x
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