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writes:25 yrs of marriage need urgent advice.My husband has always been impatient but not in a really bad way. Rare occasions evry 5 yrs he has fallen out with someone he disagreed with or been rude to a friend. He won't socialise very well with people he barely know he needs time. He helps in the house with my family and his dementia 'd mother in law, xmas everyone comes to us as he is such a tonic and good laugh Our 2 children are now in Uni we ve been havin alovely time but ltely hes ignored our neighbours and given them black looks. Today when she said how nice the wall was he said oh in that case i ll paint it black tomorrow and was really rude OUT OF THE BLUE We are house huntin to downsize but i dont want to feel on edge in new company or with my friends any more. Wot shall I do? He can be so loving and a tonic 99% of the time .Depressed Di
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reader, Cateyes  +, writes (12 October 2007):
 Well Di, first I'd like to congratulate you on being married for 25 yrs, how wonderful! Impatience, I think we all have it, just some more then others, and in some there's even alot more then others! It's also very hard to "change" someone if they are this way, it's kinda like saying it's in their make up...however, I will always believe anyone can change..it's only if they want and desire to. The rudeness though, that is uncalled for in my opinion. Have you ever asked him why he does this in front of your friends or neighbors? Does he think it's funny, but's it not? Maybe he thinks they think he's kidding or it's a joke? Bottom line I would just ask him why he feels the need to do these things, maybe remind him of each time something he did or said was down right rude and see what his response is. Unless you don't ask, you won't know. He might be going through something right now to that you may not even be aware of, especially if it's getting worse. I won't say it will get better, but what I will say is you should talk to him and let him know you love him very much and that you are concerned why he does this and that it makes you feel....and you fill in the rest of that sentance.
Best of luck.
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