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*elli
writes:I am 31 years old and I have been dating a 27year old guy for a year now. I love him very much and he treats me well but I feel very insecure about the future. He never talks about the future with me or include me in his future plans. I think he is scared that I might ask him to marry me or s/thing. He is very immature and he is dreaming to live abroad and find a better job than the one he has now cause he is not happy with it. Of course he didn't ask me to go with him. And that hurts...It's like he's already decided that we are going to break up anyway.. I hate the fact that I don't have the strength to break up with him cause I'm scared to be alone again.I was alone for almost 5 years with short lived horrible relationships inbetween. And he was my angel...because he loved me and now I am not so sure anymore even though he says he does.PLease help!!!
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reader, nelli +, writes (11 September 2010):
nelli is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's not true that I use him for not being alone. I do love him and we have so much fun together. Everyone thinks that we are going to get married just by seeing how happy we make each other. If I could stop thinking about the future I would just enjoy it but that's the problem. I can't and my family won't let me. I think he is scared and so am I. The question is...Should I just continue and say nothing about my thoughts (cause I think I might pressure him) or confront him?I don't won't to loose him:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): You are wasting each others time. You are with him as its better than being alone. He will have picked up on this,so he doesnt see you as more than a mutual gap filler.
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reader, rubaab  +, writes (9 September 2010):
hello dear !
well he is only 4 or 6 years younger then you. i met lot of couples who has age difference.they are happy with each other.] i can understand your situation. before u will more invole with him you have to talk to him.you have allready painful past . now dont hurt your self. if he will love you he will accepet you as you are. please dont mind in your age dont waste your time. if he will be seriouse he will be with you other wise you will be able to find out your direction.
good luck!
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