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*fly36
writes:ok ppl here it goes, im getting divorced, i met a man, i really like him, he lives with a girl, not married no kids for 5 years says he is unhappy, i have not had sex with him. He wants to be with me and says it will take a while to leave her that he wants to do things right, ive never been involved w/someone in this situation, what's ur advice?????
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (24 April 2008):
 Hi
Great he wants to do things right. Thats good isn't it? But that also means he doesn't want to get into anything with you until he has split from her and sorted things out, right? Otherwise he doesn't actually want to do things right does he.
If he has been unhappy a while, why has he not split from her a while ago? Im one of the most people pleasers i know, and it took me a year to split from somoene because i hated breaking their heart, but is he talking years?
Best thing to do is see if he means what he says about doing things right.
You cant go wrong then. If you are lonely, go out a bit more and if you meet someone thats been single a while, all the better. Afterall, you are free and single. You dont need to be anyones bit on the side ey.
Good luck.
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reader, Aeval  +, writes (24 April 2008):
 You can be strong and you will, It makes me wonder.... If he makes her out to be awful to you then in a few years if things went bad between you two what would he say about you?
Nope I say leave this one well alone until he leaves the girlfriend and is TOTALLY commited to you and only you.
When you feel lonley call up a friend and distract yourself. Don't let yourself get hurt!!
Good luck!
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reader, bfly36 +, writes (24 April 2008):
bfly36 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanx for the response he makes it seem as ""poor him"""no one loves him and i'm so nice, i am keeping my distance i hope i can be strong cause i feel really lonely and he makes her out to be such an unconcerned woman.
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reader, Aeval +, writes (24 April 2008):
Run for the hills!! How woulod you feel if you were his GF? Read this site there are thousands of women who have been in this situation and it hasn't really turned out well for them....Wait until you know for sure that he has left his other half and is independant from her (totally). Then if you still want to do something do. Do not get involved now its far too messy and you don't need the complication in your life.Divorce is not an easy thing, take some time out to heal and don't rush into anything unitl you are sure of what you want. Especially if it leads to more problems than what oyu have just left.Best of luck to you!
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