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writes:Hi i met this guy on holiday about 4 years ago, only for a week and really liked him, he made me feel special and i have never felt more myself and confident and alive. He was about 3-4 years younger. I was kind of in a relationship, and i knew he liked me but obviously i wasnt going to cheat-.I really liked him but i made it clear it wasn't happening, and even tho it was awkward the day after that, we stayed close, and left sad that we wouldn't see each other. We stayed in touch on msn, and after a few months he told me he'd become so attached to me n thats never happened to him, especially in such a short time, and that when i told him nothing could happen, it really upset him, but he knows it was for the best.So anyway 2 years after that, i go back to the holiday n hes there again, but we see each other just once, n hes not himself.I get really upset without telling him (one reason i went again was to see him) and barely see him. A few months later on msn he says he's sorry n his grandma died, n he didnt know how to act around me, but he misses me, n compliments me and so on- Now its been a year that he's practically ignoring me on msn and its upset me n i duno why. Apparently he has a new girlfriend so maybe she doesnt want me to speak 2 him, but then just block me instead of not answering!its been bothering me a lot as i miss him n he just means a lot to me for some reason and im not sure wat to do. i know i should forget it but i wana know why!!im sorry this is long and boring but just need a bit of advice!Thanks
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (22 May 2008):
 I 'fell in love' with someone when i went on Holiday, theres still not a day that goes by without me thinking about them even though it was nearly 3years ago, i'd do anything to go bac and see him, i had panick attacks and couldn'r stop crying when i got home, but eventually the pain does ease and you do forget, it just may take a while. If he doesn't take the time to talk to you then why talk to him? Anyway if you do speak to him again then tell him exactly how you feel about everthing and tell him you NEED a straight answer
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Well, as much as it pains you, maybe it's simply time to give up and move on. I don't think there's much else you can do if he won't reply or acknowledge your messages.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your replies, yet just to clarify i am not waiting for him, and i am with someone as well, but what bothers me is him ignoring me, even if i send an email he doesnt answer, and i just care about him and would like him part of my life, not particularly to be my boyfriend-and i thought he cared about me too, and that he wanted to keep me in his life!
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reader, x_kat_x +, writes (21 May 2008):
hey
it sounds as though this guy is not being completely straight with you
if he does not want to know then to be honest it is best to move on
maybe send him an email asking him about it and if he says that he does not want to know then hes not worth it and it is best for you too move on, four years as it is is a long time to wait
hope this helped
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (21 May 2008):
Unfortunately, it seems the tables have been turned on you. When you first met, you were not available and today, he's not available. Why he's not answering you could easily be for his new relationship... in the same way you might ask the same of a boyfriend to sever contact with a past love interest.
But possibly, there might be hope stuck in the folds of this huge tapestry. Have you considered that he might not have blocked you from MSN in case his current relationship fails? Yes, it is cruel to not tell you of such things, but there is a possible glimmer of hope to hold onto.
But, despite the sadness you feel, please don't put your happiness on hold, waiting for a message that might not be arriving anytime in the near future... or distant future for that matter. You should release this sadness and remain open to the possibilities in the world. Don't cut yourself off from what might be waiting around the corner from you. Geez -- listen to me! I sound like a fortune cookie! ...but I still believe the message is true and you should heed it.
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