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writes:I got with my boyfriend last October and we had a lovely time together, but it came to a head in April when I realised he was just too childish for me. I then met someone else in that time who lives about 2 hours away but share a lot in common with. He then went back to his home abroad for 3 weeks and I thought he wasn't interested. Figuring this, I then got back with my ex, only to find out that the guy who went abroad was actually really interested and upset by my choice. Every day I am with my boyfriend now I think about the guy I met while we were apart, and I miss him terribly.What should I do? I am worried that the guy who I met on the break will hate me now, even though his last text said that he would be here for me when I needed him, and I live in the same town with my current boyfriend, so it would make life difficult when we broke up as we have many of the same friends etc.
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reader, Lady B +, writes (24 July 2007):
it is only fair that you are true to your feelings but it also not fair to pretend to love someone or love someone half heartedly.If you really care for your boyfrend then you would tell him how you feel coz i think he will be even more hurt once he discovers your ego.The only reason you got back with him is because you thought this guy that lives abroad didn't care for you but now that you know he does it makes a whole new difference.Correct me if am wrong but to me you sound like someone who is scared of being alone and so you've put all your dependecy on your boyfriend and for the mates that you share with him, that should be the least of your worries bcoz if they're true mates like you say they are then they would know the rule of not taking sides and never giving up on a friend in need. But if didn't work out you could always find new ones for just yourself.I know how difficult it could be telling someone that you didn't feel the same way about them anymore but the thing is,the more you wait the harder it gets so the sooner the better coz you will have to do it sometime anyway. Stop regreting and do something about it real soon before its too late. Good luck
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (24 July 2007):
 If you don't want to be with your boyfriend, do break up with him. This is the right thing to do.
Once you've broken up with him, take the chance with the other guy. Maybe he does fancy you.
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