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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I met a guy at an inter-uni society thing and instantly liked him. This was 7 months ago. We flirted a lot and at the first social we kissed, nothing dramatic, just a peck, but still. Nothing was mentioned after that, we both were pretty drunk so I just let it go. But then a few weeks ago at another social we were dancing and having a really good time and he told me he really liked me and I told him I like him too and he suggested we go out sometime. A week later he had barely spoke to me. As we go to different universities we only see each other at the weekly society meetings so apart from the odd 5 minute conversation on Facebook chat, there was little communication. But then I decided to text him and ask him what was happening and he asked if I wanted to go to the cinema at the weekend. I obviously agreed. Another week goes by and we still hadn’t arranged anything but at the society we talked alone and actually arranged something. So at the weekend we actually went out. Cinema and McDonalds and Subway. Not exactly romantic, but it was nice and I had a really good time. This was 3 weeks ago. Since then he’s barely spoken to me, and on Facebook chat he was really short and didn’t respond much. He also missed both society meetings. I know for a fact he has a busy timetable and works but I expected a little bit more. 3 weeks with barely any contact and Valentine’s Day was in the middle. I know it was only one date but being in this limbo is killing me. I wouldn't mind so much if he just said that he'd rather be friends or something, or at least gave me a genuine reason for practically ignoring me if he does still like me. I just don’t know where I stand :(
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (2 March 2011):
 He is treating you with disrespect by not contacting you and letting you know whats going on. It may be that he isn't that into you or maybe he is just one of these lazy guys who wants the woman to do all the chasing.If that's the case then he isn't going to change and you are going to remain in the dark.
Take yourself out of the limbo by socialising with other people and forget about him for a while. If he contacts you tell him straight that you would like to have a relationship with someone that actually calls you and is excited about seeing and dating you, not someone who leaves you dangling (because in reality thats what you DO want).
I know you like him but just liking someone isn't enough...they have to treat you right and thats very important for your self esteem.
Big hugs xxx
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