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writes:When I was in college a guy lived next door and I lived there until the end of college and moved and he went to michigan we were just friends and neighbors. He came into town not to long ago and low and behold his aunt is next door that he was visiting. I saw him and there was chemistry he told me had a crush on me back in the day we hit it off and went on dates for 2 weeks we even kissed. I told him we could write and make calls and we decided we would see where it goes from there he could move back or me move there down the road. But one night on a date we were talking on his sexual experiences just random talk and I mentioned my ex penis size and he got upset with me mentioning my ex boyfriend. We did not have sex me and this new guy this was dating and kissing. He blocked me on facebook and told me in text leave him alone. I can't do anything but wonder if this was an excuse cause he is going back to michigan or was it really that serious what I said..
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (12 June 2014):
So he was gone for 2 weeks and there was no other way of contacting you.......odd. That would tell me that he lacks some manners.
But hey, you are there and know more. Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe actual went back home for 2 weeks and flew back and apologized and wants to figure something out with me.
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reader, Brokenv +, writes (29 May 2014):
Count your lucky stars that you got to see this side of him NOW. Move on and don't look back. He sounds like is has insecurity problems and lack of maturity with his emotions.
Do you want that in your life?......I don't think so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2014): I think it's ok to ask about past history, you need to know this to determine if you want to have that relationship with someone but this was too much info for him and yes it may have upset him. Since he was the one who started the conversation it is odd that it upset him this much. It could have been talking about an ex- again to do that once or twice isn't enough to upset most people either.
I think not talking about any of these things ever is unrealistic but there is a tactful way to do it and discussing body part sizes etc. is not the way to go. Anyone who says they don't notice that type of thing is being dishonest, of course we notice this but it's not something you want to inform a possible romantic interest about.
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reader, Intrigued3000 +, writes (28 May 2014):
 Wow! This guy has some serious head issues regarding his penis size - No pun intended:) Seriously, if he blocked you and ended the friendship because you mentioned this, then thank God you found out now. He sounds a bit too extreme. Do you really want to be involved with a guy who can't express himself in a healthy way and tell you what's on his mind? His reaction to you is immature. If he was a man, he would have told you that it bothered him. Instead he acted like a little boy, pouted his lips and slammed the door shut, without any proper explanation as to why he was upset with you. You're better off without him.
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reader, llifton +, writes (28 May 2014):
 Agreed. I think it was your comment. It was a bit on the too much information side. I think couple that with the fact that he probably is insecure and you have the perfect storm. I think retrograde jealousy also plays a big part.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 May 2014):
 I agree with Ciar.
It's really tacky to talk exes body-parts and not being discreet when it comes to past partners. I think you BOTH erred on that part. No man whats to hear about the exes big or tiny penis. And no woman wants to hear about exes big boobs or porn star qualities in the bedroom. (or whatever juicy details were discussed).
A guy that reacts that strongly is either one with STRONG retrograde jealousy or maybe he felt you didn't WANT him because he wasn't BIG (or what not) like you ex.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (28 May 2014):
 The latter I'm afraid.
Regardless of how close you are to someone or how far back your acquaintance goes it was tasteless to share that kind of information.
By doing so you've informed this man that you keep track of that sort of thing, that you're not discreet, that you might be a bit too casual about sex and that you have no sense of what is and isn't appropriate. And most potential mates, male or female, do not want to hear about your exes.
For the record, I think it was equally tasteless of him to discuss his sexual history.
I'd let this one go and consider it a learning lesson.
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reader, RevMick  +, writes (28 May 2014):
 Hi,
Some people have really bad penis envy and it could be he is one of them. I knew someone who got so upset with the size of his that he took a knife to it and hacked it off.
It is also a possibility that, he did feel something for you and for fear of it going anywhere decided to pick a fight and leave it there.
Without knowing more, I can't come up with anything more. Hope that helps.
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