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*onelyGal85
writes:Hi everyone, I have a problem. I am currently married for 8 months and I knew my husband for 2 years. Our marriage is just in the pits I don't see our marriage going anywhere. I think the reason may be because I am in love with another man, my first boyfriend, to whom I had lost my virginity to. I am sooo in love with him. It was love at first sight when I met him. It has been 5 years and no matter how hard I try I cant stop thinking about him. I love him so much it hurts. It ended between us because he was looking for one thing from me and when it wasnt to his liking anymore he didn't want me. What hurts the most is how he rejected me, hurt me and made me suffer what should I do? because all I ever think about is how I can get revenge. please help me i love him but hate him what should I do I cant get over him.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (17 June 2007):
 How long have you felt like this about your ex? When did you start thinking about him as intensely? Before or after you were married? Is your husband a good husband? Does he show you attention and make you feel special? Do you both spend quality time together or is he busy working all the time? What was your ex looking for from you that you wouldn't give him? Give me some more information and I'll see if I can help you some more okay?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): Well, first of all, your marriage is probably in the pits for more common reasons. Maybe he isn't praising you, talking to you, and giving you affection, or he isn't honest, dependable, or hard-working, or he doesn't hang out with you and fulfill your basic cravings. Those are things he can fix, if he has a chance and knows how important they are to you. Maybe you need to be sure you're doing all those things too, if he'll aim for them along with you. This other stuff about your first love ... it's all fantasy stuff. He's obviously not that great of a guy, but you're retreating into a fantasy--a romance fantasy and/or a revenge fantasy--because where you're at now is pretty boring. Making real life and real marriage into something rewarding is hard (expect no more than like 1% improvement per week of working at it, not counting occasional setbacks), but it's well worth it, because--slowly--it'll become real. Right now, all you've got are figments of the imagination. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): I KNOW HOW YOU FELL IM IN A RELISHIP WITH A GUY FOR 6 YEARS AND HE WOUNTS TO GET MARRIED BUT I DONT LOVE HIM IM STILL IN LOVE WITH ANOTHER PERSON I MET 10 YEARS AGO. IV TRYED TO LOVE HIM AND FOR GET THE OTHER PERSON BUT I CANT EVERY TIME I EAT SURTON FOODS WOLK BY SOME ONE WARING THE SOME COLONEAND SURTON SONGS THAY UST TO SING TO ME YOU CANT FORGET JUST TRY TO MOVE OWN.
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