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writes:Hey, so my exboyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago and i still can't get over it. At the beginning I felt relieved because it wasn't such a good relationship but then I started to get more and more depressed to the point that i have no interest in school or exercising like I used to .It wasn't a long relationship but i was in love with him , as a matter of fact, i still love him,he is the first guy that kissed me and we had sex cassually before we were in a relationship and fell in love with him since then. Everynight i find myself wondering how come life is so unfair with me? why he couldn't love me as i did? I stalk his facebook to see what he's up to although after we broke up i removed him from mine I miss him should i tell him i love him and ask him to take me back? or should i keep on ignoring him and move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey, well first of all thank you both for your answers i know that im just going to keep on ignoring him and to clear things up he broke up with me saying that he wouldn't have time for me like I deserved it and he felt he didn't deserved me wich i didn't believe of course it sounded like an excuse...well thank you again for taking your time to read and answer my questions ....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010): Don't tell him you love him or ask for him to take you back. You'll drive him away! Honestly, you won't get anywhere doing that. It's a classic mistake people make when they get dumped! It makes you come across as desperate which is a turn off for guys, it will also make him realise he can take advantage of you. Let's say he fancies a shag one night, he'll ask you and you'll be straight over to his house won't you? Sometimes a guy will use your feelings to his advantage and they will use you and hurt you again.The trick to get him back is to act like you don't care. Don't initiate ANY contact with him, not in any way whatsoever. What I would suggest is that you re-add him on facebook (he will accept the friend request since you were the one who deleted him!) then when he's online, resist from starting a convo with him. Chances are, he will eventually start talking to you. Be patient. With me I was waiting 5 weeks before my ex finally began to talk to me again! The idea is that he will contact you when he's had chance to miss you. You can use facebook to your advantage too! Post loads of status's that are generally positive, make out that you're going out all the time and enjoying yourself (even if you're not!) try to be vague in your status's too, for example you could put 'had a great time tonight, followed by a winky face' - this gives the impression that you've met someone. Which could indeed make your ex jealous and he might try to get back with you! However, this will depend massively on WHY you broke up. You may also be at a disadvantage because it appears to me that you broke up on bad terms. Since you deleted him off facebook? So please do share some more information on that, it is quite important when it comes to getting him back.Lastly. IF sometime in the future, he asks you to meet him - don't give in too easily! Play hard to get, say that you're busy that day, or that you'll think about it but then let him down last minute. You'll feel horrible doing this but guys love a chase and he will want you even more if you're hard to get. The similar applies if he rings you - don't answer it! and get back to him later that day or even the next day (make sure you do return the call though, otherwise he will think you're being ignorant) when he asks why you didn't anwer, just say you were "busy" then change the subject, to why he rang you. Be vague in your responses to his questions and let him think you've been going out, meeting new people and enjoying yourself. It's all about reverse psychology, and I do believe it works in most circumstances. So far it's worked for me, me and my ex are getting on very well, he's taking a deep interest in my life again and is showing signs that he wants me back. I can't guarantee we'll get back together nor can I guarantee this will work for you with your ex but its certainly an approach that takes you in the right direction. As I stated before, it's quite dependant on the reason you broke up and also how he feels about you. Does he still like you? All I can say is... if it's meant to be, then it will work out for you both in the endJust requires what i've said above, plus ALOT of patience.Best of luck xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010): Hey!I know exactly what your going through, as i experienced these feelings last year, and still kind of do.It depends on what type of guy he is, i found that, telling my ex i wanted him back was a big mistake and scared him off even more. It's known that the best thing you can do is ignore him, and if he really loved you, in time he'll come running back.It's up to you ofcourse, but i would follow this handy trick, as it works with a lot of men.Don't feel depressed, it makes things so much worse than what it should be, stop looking at his facebook! haha! that's what i used to do, if you do that you miss him for much longer, once i stopped i started to get a lot better, and more confident with myself.Always think about you first, sort yourself out and concentrate on you and how you can feel better, dont ever let a man make you feel like that!I really hope things work out for you, no matter which way you go.Good Luck xxxx
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