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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:hi all,i know this lady since 3 years ago, we are working in the same place not the same department. we will bump into each other a few times in a week and sometimes will start a conversation. Most of the times she will be the one initiating the conversation and Our conversation always about work matters even though we don't share the same job scope. Recently our eyes contact seems to be getting more and more often and i always will be the one looking at her more and smiling at her first. I figure out since we are not really co colleague i should be more friendly to her by smiling to her more. Initially She will also stare at me back and without any expression when i walk past her. But as times goes on she started to smile back at me when our eyes meet. There was some moment when our eyes meet each other I can feel the instant attraction and the feeling is like everything else around me just stop for the moment. The feeling i got was so powerful and i don't know whether she felt it too. So i decided to ask around whether she is available or she had already been taken. Nobody knows for sure but news spread fast to her i guess. Very bad decision taken, Instead of asking her casually whether is she taken, Now she avoided me whenever she can, but still look at me from a distance. Is she interested or she just pure friendly due to her character? Personally i feel even if she is taken, let just be acquaintance and pretend nothing happens. For my part i will just take it as silly misunderstanding haha. but now she seems to be almost disappeared from my 8 hrs work life. Even if i want to ask her directly seems to be an uphill task because i can't bump into her anymore and it make me feel weird now though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2017): Ok got it. Thanks all.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (30 May 2017):
 That attraction you felt was, sadly, all one sided.
She is not romantically interested in you. She's making herself unavailable because she doesn't want to be put in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you directly to leave her alone.
Don't try to be friends or acquaintances. Just leave her be and forget about her.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (30 May 2017):
 Sounds like she was just being friendly and now possibly feels a bit guilty that she may have led you on to think she wanted more, hence she is keeping her distance.
Let it go. She doesn't sound interested in taking thing further.
Next time you are interested in someone, ask them out for a coffee or something else casual. They then have the opportunity to tell you if they are not available without you asking other people.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (30 May 2017):
 Sorry - what is the question you want to ask?
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