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writes: i know this isn't exactly a question, but i just needed to write this or tell someone! i was out last night and saw my brother in law! we made out, but both knew how wrong it was, i just feel awkward about the next time i have to see him. Reply to this Question
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reader, dorfmeistersfan +, writes (2 December 2006):
 Forget the feeling of weirdness or awkward. What you did may have been unacceptable, but it was entirely normal and experimental.
Having regret and bad feelings about it is wrong. You love your brother in law, and if seeing him made you happy or the desire to experiement such action created a high interest, then regardless of how uncomfortable anyone may feel, your reaction was normal and you should consider it special.
Now, to continue such actions while he's married to your sister is a no no. It can cause major problems and consequence. So, for the sake of consequence and promblems, we don't need to create a bad world out of the good world(your present environment) that you are living in.
Don't cope about this, just talk about it with him. Ask him what lead him act upon you and share with him what lead you to act upon him. Isolate this reason, and focus on it together to create a more respectful, honest and better relationship you guys wish to have for each other.
Good luck and don't pay any of these negative posters any attention.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2006):
Hiya!
I dont think their is any harm is this, if your both free agents and find each other attractive.. the problem comes if you want to take things further then I would suggest running the suggestion past your brother/sister to see what they think. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2006): girl! are u crazy? u made out with ur bruv in law...dats such a no go area...if my sis dun that n i found out i wud go mentalllll...if u wna be a gud person tell ur sis ASAP b4 ur bruvainlaw cz ur gna end up cumin out worst...speak to ur bruv in law...tell him datt it shudtve hapend..u both love ur sista...it was a stupid thing to do by two very irrsponsable people..good luck..ur gna need it...freind x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2006): just to clarify! i am 20 and single! my brother in law is in his 30's and is married to my sister! they have 2 kids!
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reader, stina  +, writes (27 October 2006):
 Hi Anon,
If you're having relationship troubles with your man and that's why you went for his brother, you need to talk to your guy. You couldn't have just cheated on him for no reason if you were totally in love with him. You also need to decide if you're going to tell your husband what you and his brother did. If it were me, I'd feel I had to tell my man. But you also have to think about the consequences. It wouldn't just be hurting your husband, but this could make a huge problem for the whole family. Holidays, birthdays, etc could be very strange and there would probably be a lot of tension, at least at first, assuming everyone would still show up.
Here's my advice for the next time you and the brother see each other: I'm sure he's going to feel awkward, as well, so that's probably going to limit him wanting to talk too much with you. If he decides, on the other hand, that he thinks this is going to be an ongoing thing, you need to pull him aside and tell him you apologize for what happened, but that it won't happen again because you love your husband. Just keep your distance, remain cordial, and don't be alone with him again (unless it's to tell him to leave you alone).
Other than that, there's not too much you can do to stop from feeling strange around this guy. I think you'll have to let time take care of that. And even then, the feeling might not totally go away.
Focus on you and your husband. Work on that relationship.
Take care.
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