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writes:I have a 2 week old son. His father is not in the picture. He pretty much just up and left and I haven't had any contact with him. At first he wanted to be there. He kept trying to agree to letting him get a place and have me move in with him. Circumstances wouldn't allow that he's 33 and I'm 17. Also, he got married not long after I told him I was pregnant. I wasn't going to take the chance of him leaving me, and me and my son not having anywhere to go. He cheated on his girlfriend with me, so I also wasn't taking the chance of him doing the same to me. (BTW I don't need any comments about that, I know what I done was wrong, and I shouldn't have done it). Now one of my friends is giving me a hard time about it. She thinks I should've given him a chance. What do you guys think? I'm starting to feel like it's my fault he isn't around Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): Your friend is an idiot. She's telling you to give him a chance because she wants you to be miserable. A good friend would support you in your decision instead of berating you for not hanging on to a situation that will only cause you and your baby more pain.
Take a good, long look at your friend and think about her motives in telling you this.
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reader, babii3ang +, writes (27 March 2010):
 its not your fault just give him alittle space for a while. probably he will come back but he feels that u were pressuring him mayb hhe wont come back at all
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reader, Rosy  +, writes (27 March 2010):
She did say she didn't expect to cheat...thats y she chose not to be with him...karma is a bitch but it happens. Anyway, u made the right choice as he left knowing you was pregnant with his baby. Tell your friend he knows where you are and he chose to get married to someone else! He can support you financially but make sure that is it! Just look after yourself and your baby, and be happy. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): Unless your friend is willing to step up and help support you and your child, she has absolutely no ground to criticize your decisions. You need to make her aware of that fact.
If this is something that she tells you over and over, you seriously need to reconsider your friendship. Your situation is difficult enough without unwanted opinions from a meddler on the sidelines.
If she's a true friend, she'll shut her yap and support you. If not, don't waste your time - you've got more important issues to deal with.
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reader, mr toyboy  +, writes (27 March 2010):
You cheated with him on his ex and fell pregnant, yet you didnt expect him to run off with another woman?
Karma is a bitch.
Its good you didnt give him a chance, cos he was still gona abandon you and your son, so concentrate on you and your son and i wish you all the best.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (27 March 2010):
 Well, it is and it isn't your fault.
It isn't your fault that the guy did an about face on you, and isn't doing what he should do. He's a grown man and he knows what the right thing to do is. You can't persuade someone to do something that isn't in their nature, and apparently it's not in his nature to be faithful and honest.
On the other hand, what did you expect? He's a cheater. You knew right off the bat that he wasn't a decent guy. Why in the world would you have a child with a guy like that? That's like hanging out with a tiger and being surprised he eats meat. Cheaters cheat! That's what they do! There is no, repeat NO special magical love that's going to make a cheater stop cheating. If you take nothing else from this situation, take that.
Don't listen to your friend. The man made his choice.
Good luck in raising your child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): do not trust him he is a dog.he is also a pedofile.i would never leave him alone with a child ever.where are your parents. if you were my child i would call the police on him for sure.also you need to get a dna test pronto.sue for child support.please turn him in before he does this to another young girl. do not let him get away with this crime.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 March 2010):
 It is over and your friend is just an academic exercise and nothing more.
You made the choice and you need to live with it.
If the next opportunity presents again , you should think care fully before you react.
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