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writes: I was sexually abused twice when I was six and once when I was nine by the same attacker. He took all my clothes off and licked all over my body. He put his penis in my face and rubbed it on my clitoris. He rubbed my clitoris and did many other sexual things to me. It scarred me and ruined much of my childhood. It nearly drove me insane as a little girl. I was very confused and could not fully grasp what had happened. I could not tell my mother until I was 12. I was so upset, I cried and cried and begged her not to press charges. I think because I was so scared and scarred. I did not lead a happy, or healthy, life.He already had done this to 2 other little girls and already had charges against him. Finally, because I begged her so much, she didn't.He was a minor when he did this though. Only about 6-8 years older than me. Out of curiosity:Would I be able to press charges now? Would it make any difference? We were minors then, so it wouldn't change anything, right? Because he already has the two other offenses? Am I too late? does anyone know?I have not been able to live a happy life. I feel as though I should have told my mother sooner or let her press charges. I lived my life in fear. I am just now gaining back self-esteem that's been gone all my life. He was my cousin, but I don't consider him family to me. It felt too cruel to press charges as a little girl, maybe because I was in denial of what really happened. Now that I've fully realized what he did was horribly vicious and horrible and sick and twisted, I do not want this man on the street. The two little girls were his little sisters. He is a sick, twisted man. I don't trust him at all. But do I have any way to keep him from the streets? Is it wrong for me to want him away so badly? Also, he recently somehow got ahold of my email and sent me a long email, which I did not respond to. It said: that even if what happened was long ago, he feels he may have truly hurt me. He said I was a very beautiful girl and there is something wrong with him for doing that to me. He just couldn't resist.I do not find this sincere. He wants something, I'm not sure what. I'm no longer afraid of him. I just want him away. We live on different sides of the U.S., but it doesn't matter to me. I feel he will hurt another little girl. I don't think this is something he's grown out of. I do not find this email sincere. Even without the email, can something be done?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): like the other helpful readers mentioned; u still have the ability to charge and u must keep ur email as proof. in fact, i hope u do charge him because the man is truly sick and may harm other children that cross his path. i am so sorry for what has happened to u, i was sexually abused to when i was younger but not has badly as u were and it has left a permanent scar on me. ure very strong for coming out like this and for wanting to take action against him. i can imagine how painful his email must have been for u by brigning back old wounds to surface. i wish u the best of luck and i hope u manage to do something against this man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): Yes, you can absolutely still have this man charged, and on behalf of all the mothers of little girls (myself included) thank you for your courage. It is never too late. Please make the move to speak to the police and arrange an investigation. What he did to you was sick and wrong, and has had such an impact on your life. I hope that you can find some peace and, in time, put this behind you. He is still trying to blame you for his actions. A little girl should be protected and never have this happen to her, it is never her fault.
I do hope that he is brought to justice and the 6 year old in you can smile again.
All the best and much love to you
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (27 March 2010):
 The answer to your question is that in the U.S. there is no statute of limitations on child abuse. So you can still press charges. As you mentioned it may not make much difference. His e-mail is proof that you would need. I do think that asking for a restraining order would be more helpful to you. About the safety of other children, you can check the sexual offender registry. Many people, not just victims, are frustrated with the inability we have as a country to permanently remove sex offenders from society. It is a price of the freedom we enjoy.
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