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writes:Hello everybody, and thanks for read my post, I think I said something to my boyfriend that wasn't good, we had a discution 2 days ago, he is a very quiet guy, he doesn't raise his voice, but I am very volatil, and sometimes I say things that I later regret, this time I told him something like this "don't think I am having a hiden agenda in this relationship, I don't want to get married now, and the day i will be ready to marry I will be out of this relationship", I honestly don't want to get married now, but I didn't meant the part that when I will be ready I will leave him, after I said that he just raise his eyebrows and look at the floor, and he just said "Ok", I don't know if I should say something about it, or not, at the end of the day all guys are commitment fobics, we have been together for almost 8 months and he is really wonderfull and I think I am inlove with him. Could it be possible that I would have hurt his feelings? should I be concerend about this comment I made? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2008): I think you have hurt his feelings.Dear you are very lucky.The guy is seriously in love with you.Never let him go.I have a nasty temper myself.So I know you don't always mean the things you say when you are angry.The best way is to kiss and makeup.Its an age old remedy but still works.cuddle him.cook his favorite meal for him.confess how important is he to you.Look in his eyes and say the things from your heart.Its never too late to express your love.We have a saying in India "where there is a temper beneath it lies a heart of gold".Best of luck.god bless.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (3 October 2008):
 I think it's quite possible that you hurt his feelings. That was a pretty harsh thing to say - I totally understand that you were pissed, and sometimes we say things out of anger, but you need to learn how to control that temper. I can sympathize with you, though. I can be that way too. It's hard to control, but doable.
I think that you should talk to him. Tell him that you've been thinking about something that you said, and you really regret it, you didn't mean it and that you hope he knows that you really care about him and take the relationship seriously. Tell him how wonderful you think he is and that you're really worried that you might have hurt him.
An apology is ALWAYS worth making even if you're not sure if he's really upset.
Good luck, my sweet!
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