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writes:For most of my life I have tried so hard to get people to like me. I'm quite a sensitive person and I was always the "nice girl." While this had it's rewards, I didn't feel I could really express myself. In recent years, I've begun stating my mind more and more, and it has made me less popular. I feel I stand up for myself more frequently however I can't seem to get over the sick feeling that overcomes me when I don't tell people what they want to hear.How do you gain a thicker skin in life? Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (4 October 2008):
 This is something i am working on to this day.
I was the epitomy of a nice girl. Until one day, I woke up and had enough of people taking advantage of it.
I think you learn to set boundries with people. What they can do or say. And when they cross it, learn not to get emotional or angry but brush it off. Also, learn to love yourself. Know your worth, so that you're not so nice in trying to please everyone.
You don't have to go out of your way..only do it if you want to. It's good to stand up for yourself, but there's also a careful way of doing it without offending them either. Ultimately, you don't have to try to get people to like you. Learn to like yourself and people will see that. Stay positive.
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (4 October 2008):
 oldersister has it right.. or customer service..
in short, i get a thicker skin. you usually have to go through alot of shit in your life. beaten into the ground untill your soul has been grinded to a pulp and you simply don't care. liturally turn the other cheek.
become saracstic. it worked for me. of course you have to make fun of yourself and beable to laugh at yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2008): That's a good answer from Ask oldersister - but if you want a REALLY thick skin make sure it's in telesales. They always call at mealtimes and take some stick. Well, they do from me anyway!
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