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*ndy00
writes:I've made a terrible mistake. What can I do?Last week I was out with my girlfriend. We got on very well that evening, and before we left each other, she told me that she would like to come to my house some time in the week. That never happened in the end, but it was nice to know she wanted to see where I lived.Anyway, we'd both been drinking, and when I got home I posted a message on my friend, "J's" facebook fun wall. I said something like "Hi Jodie, how are you..." (ect, you get the idea) I then went on to say that "She said she wanted to come home this week so I don't if that means she wants to... well, you know :D". I meant nothing by this comment, it was just a friendly comment sent to somebody who has been there for me in some tough times recently.Anyway, my girlfriend has seen this message and feels very disrespected. I guess she has every right to. Even if it was just a bit of fun, she has taken offense and has slammed the phone down on me tonight. I have sent her a text (I would have called, but I didn't expect to get any talking from her). I have told her that I feel terrible and am very sorry that I have disrespected her. I also promised to never talk about her in a manner she finds disrespectful ever again, and that I would remove all my comments from "J's" wall.I haven't heard back from her yet, but I would just like to know what I can do. I feel like I have hurt her, and it was all out of something that was never meant to do so. Please, does anybody have any suggestions on what I should do next? I care about my girlfriend even though we have been together for a very short time, and I especially care about her feelings. Is there any way I can make it up to her, and regain her trust?Thank-you.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (3 February 2008):
 It is only a small mistake .In time, she will realize that she will miss you and want you back.Look at the bigger picture.Call it a time out or winter time or whatever. Just hunker down and wait for summer time. Things maybe brighter..
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (2 February 2008):
Andy00 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I still feel bad for hurting her. I never like it when people have a negative impression of me, and I guess I have given her that. I feel frustrated because my only intention was for us to enjoy our time together. I didn't want to come across like I was only after one thing, and in trying to have a laugh with my friend, I think this is what she thinks now and so she left me.
I guess there's nothing more I can do than try to forget about it, learn from my mistake and move on.... Still, it's very frustrating.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (2 February 2008):
Give her time to reflect on her actions . You have done what is required of you and the ball is at her feet. If she is so petty minded, let her go.
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (1 February 2008):
Andy00 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I tried what was suggested by both of you, but I guess there was just no changing her mind, cos she broke up with me today. I can't believe that she has broken it off over something that seemed so trivial. I guess she just wasn't really ready for another relationship. I've always thought I was sort of a re-bound thing for her.
Still, I appreciate the help you have offered me.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (1 February 2008):
Go to her with a bouquet of flowers and apologize for your mistake. Hope she forgives you and everything will be back to normal.
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reader, openheart +, writes (31 January 2008):
ok what u did was silly but only a joke. and i can understand what u wrote could have been quite offensive to her but it wasnt as bad as what it could have been. just tell her that u didnt realise she would get this upset about it and that u would never hurt her intentionally!!
I know it may be early in ur relationship but tell her how u really fell about her. us girls always like to hear how much we mean to somebody!!
good luck
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