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writes: Hello, This a sexual question.why is it that everytime my feller goes down on me I can never let my self come to an orgasm.It feels all weird, I start shaking, then it starts hurting a bit!.It's really enjoyable at first but then I have to tell him to stop.Any ideas on what would help me scream the house down?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2005): sex is a mental thing... what comes to your mind when he is down on you? what do you think off? what happens to you is that you get turned off and its as i said, a mental thing. you need to take a mental audit of the past and find out what makes you get turned off.
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reader, wishes +, writes (20 October 2005):
 Do you masturbate? Can you make yourself cum? If not I suggest that you work on this to find out what makes you cum and how you like to be pleasured. The key really is to RELAX! Stop focussing on cumming, and just enjoy the experience. If you are concentrating too much then it wont happen. Has your boyfriend tried teasing you. It may help to passionality kiss, touch each other, maybe even him finger you until you are just about to cum, then he goes down on you, but really really gently- so he is only just touching you with his lips. As I said RELAX though, and try not to think. If you are someone who has to be thinking all the time, maybe close your eyes and put a vision of what he is doing to you in your head. Pretend as though you can actually see it, right in front of you. Best wishesx Please try not to stress about it all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2005): That used to happen to me too but I worked out it was because I wasn't relaxed. Just relax and it will happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2005): he is doing it in a spot that has too many nerve endings is what all the shaking is about. have him take his time and softly coax you over the edge. he is trying too hard but will never know unless you guide him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2005): You know what makes you happy when you're by yourself, so just ask him to do that for you when you're with him. Not all women orgasm from the same things and maybe you need a different kind of stimulation. Or maybe his technique is really bad--you won't know unless you've had a lot of experience. Explore your body and get to know what makes you happy so that you can be happy when you're with other people. It takes the guess work out of it for your boyfriend, too.
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