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writes: I made one mistake and now everything is screwed up. I went away for a while and left my laptop at home and my father just decides to look through my computer and found conversations between me and my ex-boyfriend. They weren't really sexual we were just talking about how we love each other very much and want to get married and have kids together.Then my dad banned me from any connections with boys period, took my computer and my cell, and everything i can't go on dates or anything. I cry every day because i always see couples holding hands and kissing and hanging out and i can't do that, it gets to me all the time.I have a new boyfriend now that my father does not know about but my mother does, and even though she doesnt let me go out she lets me talk to him on the phone. He wants to see me all the time but we could only sneak and i dont want to do that.Maybe my father doesnt trust me or something, thinkin im gonna elope or something and get pregnant i don't know , but im still a virgin and plan on it till marriage what should i do?
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reader, QueenB75 +, writes (20 October 2005):
Here's one thing what is your father doing rummaging through your private correspondence? I know your father is concerned, but he went about finding out the wrong way. How would he like it if his children invaded his privacy, I don't think he would like it. I think your father overreacted and needed talk to you about what his feelings are instead of overreacting the way he did. Your father needs to respect your personal space.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2005): its just a dads way of showing love. talk to you mom. she might get thru to him. in the meantime just do the best you can. it will pass
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2005): Congratulations on being firm about your virginity. The 1st thing you should do is have a chat with your dad, and tell him that you really like this guy and your intentions are of the purest form, reassure him that you are not going to do anything irrational like eloping. Your dads reaction was purely out of consern, you'll always be, in their eyes, "daddy's little girl" but prove to him that you are not going to do anything bad, don't sneak around as that will only make him more restricted toward you.
Talk with him calmly, explain your situation, and let him know that you have your good beliefs and morals and you are going to stick by them. Just reassure him, that you won't get yourself into any hot water.
Hope this helps, kind regards.
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