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writes:i have a real problem, i am in love with two men. i love both of them equally but one i have been with for 5 years and the other i met about 15 months ago (but has been secret lovers for about 3 months). they both have some issues that need resolving and i feel as though i am the one to help them with that (and i have), but i feel as though they both are pulling me apart. they both want to be with me all the time. the guys know about each other so that what scares me the most. the guy i've been with for 5 years wants me to end it with the other one because of the fear of losing me to him but i can't. my love runs too deep for him to do that. i dont want to hurts either one of them, so what should i do? leave my 5 year relationship behind or start a new? i need help now!!!!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 March 2010):
Neither man is right. When you can't decide, it's because neither option is right for you. It's the same for almost all of life's decisions. There is always a decision to be made. Sometimes you can make the decision, in which case there was an option that appealed the most. Sometimes, you can't decide. When you can't decide, neither option is right.
The man you have been with for 5 years isn't right because you're seeing someone else. If you truly loved him, you would never have seen this other guy.
The other guy isn't right, because if he was, you would have dumped your boyfriend.
Neither man is right. Your best option is to stop seeing both and move on with your life and focus on yourself for a while. When you find the right man, nothing and no one will get in the way. Don't waste your time on two men who clearly aren't right for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): Tell the one that you have been with for five years that you have been cheating on him and maybe he will make the choice for you. I know I would... In a heart beat.
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reader, Daisy Doo +, writes (20 March 2010):
 This is one of the hardest thing to choose between, Love for Love?! Witch one witch one.....You should tell them both that you love them get them together and explain how hard it is ect. just talk things over tell them what you want ect.Thats option one the hard one or there option two( below )See them both for a littlw while longer see witch one loves you more and witch one YOU love more tell the defeted man that you love them and hope you can stay friends and you need space,Or be a cheater and go with both of them tell each other that you have a job during the week to one and say you have a weekend job to the other.I do not reconmend the last one becouse of ovious reasons Money for one it's up too you what you do it's your life.Good luck, i hope for all the best! x
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