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writes: My on/off boyfriend fell in love when he was 13 and was in a relationship for two years with this girl. While they were still going out he had to watch her die as she was hit by a bus. This has seriously screwed with his head as you can imagine. I met him a couple of years later as he is 18 now. He has serious commitment issues as he has a fear of getting close to people. He also seems to be comparing all his girlfriends (he's had a fair few since her, considered a bit of a slut) to her and won't stick at a relationship because he doesn't feel it was as good as his relationship was with her. He's told me he has nightmare's reliving the moment and holding her body in his arms.I love this guy to death and I want a stable relationship with him instead of this on/off situation. To do this he needs to get over his issues. He's got a lot of pride and probably wouldn't go to councelling. What can I do to help him?
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reader, pica +, writes (13 October 2006):
Aside from his past, he's an 18 year old guy and not necessarily ready/wanting a long-term relationship anyway... I really don't think you can do anything to change the situation, sounds like a lot of girls have tried ;) If he's off/on as it suits him, you'd be better to forget him and leave him with his issues, sorry.
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reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (13 October 2006):
 Death of people we love will never go away. As he grows up...time will ease it. But there is really nothing you can do to Fix him...accept him as is or move on. Girls don't get to wish away a boys troubles...
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