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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been in love with my history teacher for three years now. I had him for one year (sophomore year) and afterwards I was a teacher's cadet for the other two. Since I was sixteen our relationship has grown a lot intellectually and emotionally, and sometimes we exchange some very deep thoughts together. Seeing as I was graduating this year, I wrote him a letter hinting to him how much he means to me, and he told me afterwards that he would like us to stay in contact and see each other outside of school. He is eleven years older than me, so I do not think this is such a tremendous age difference. I know he has a girlfriend right now, but I think he is only with her because it is a safe relationship to be in, and I know that he has had trouble over the past years in this department (he has told me about some of his past girlfriends). I am going off to college in August, and we have started to e-mail each other. He is very friendly, and we are on a first name basis, but I am very confused. I have deep affections for this man, and I know this sounds cliche, but I have tremendous respect and admiration for his character and his mind, and I feel that I have finally found somebody who I can have a mental connection with. I am so confused about everything, and he has given me ample hints that could be taken either way, so I do not know what to do. Please reply anyone. Thanks.
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reader, treats +, writes (29 May 2008):
I think you should talk to him and see him every once in a while and see how he feels and then u should wait and see what happens with his girl.. if he doesn't break up with her then it's not destined and if he does.. well u know the rest
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reader, DIE-romantic.  +, writes (29 June 2007):
 Your not the only one in this situation, or that has been in this situation, so dont worry. In fact, im in this situation right now, with my Religious Studies teacher. And like you, we have a connection. But, there is very little that can be done, because of the school situation. I wouldnt take everything into heart because of the other direction he might be talking about, then you get doubly hurt, and you may also ruin what you have between you two already, which seems like a promising and strong connection. It may happen, it just takes time. Good luck xxxx :)
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reader, nologo  +, writes (29 June 2007):
 "I know he has a girlfriend right now"
This is the most important point here.
Ask yourself whether you wanna break his and her relationship.
Your own answer to this question will tell what you should do.
Student-teacher relationship is rarely more than just a crush.
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