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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Theres no simpler way to put it but i'm in love with my ex boyfriend . i can not ,eat sleep ,dream ,listen to the radio look at my photo albums talk about the best moments in my life because they all involve him in it . i fucked up real bad and i'm trying to move on but everyones telling me that in order to get him back i have to do what he did for me and stick around and take the pain .you see we were dating for 2 yrs i broke it off on our 1st yr because i was scared i was becoming to dependent on him he still however stuck around he was my best friend ,and my lover . then i started dating but i'd still see him i told him everything about my relationship with other people and it hurt him . it wasn't until my current bf at the time asked me to marry him that i said yes..still he stayed fighting for me hearing about me being with this other guy .its like i knew i should've been with him but i fought it so bad ...now i broke my engagement off and told him how much i loved him and how i was stupid but he was already trying to move on he said he still loved me but that he wanted to see what else is out there and that he wanted me to stay just like he stayed . but i did the mistake and ran again and said no because it hurt to much to see him with someone else .he cried and i told him i hated him because i put my feelings out there and my wiliness to try and fix things and he said no for me to give him time .now i miss him more then ever and i take it all back i feel like if he gave me 1 yr and 2 months of time to think about either being with him or this other guy and fighting and constantly being rejected yet still trying then i owe it to him to stay and try because i deserve it . i did this now i have to mend what i did and take it . my question is should i try just like he did or let it go and leave him alone ?should i make an ass out of myself like he did ? do i owe him that much to try ?
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reader, Ven +, writes (19 October 2010):
You need to take some time to yourself and pull yourself together. Tell him you love him, tell him you will be back in 2-3 months, and then isolate yourself from him. You need to take time and get the emotions under control so you can make decisions with your head.
How he acted should not dictate how you act, nor does it mean you owe him anything. You must give yourself time to shake the negative emotions and decide who or what is worth your time.
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