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writes: I have been in a relationship for four years; it's a second time for us both we were both previously married.I have doubts about us. When we have issues my partner will listen but we never resolve them we end up arguing. We live together and I pay half of everything even though I only earn half of what he does. He says we will not wage share until his 13 year old girl has left school. She lives with her mother.There are lots of other issues. I love him but I don't feel like we have a commitment. Can someone please tell me if I am being unreasonable in thinking something is wrong. Reply to this Question
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reader, beenthere +, writes (9 November 2005):
you are not being unreasonable. i'm in a similar situation whereas, even though i stay at home to look after our children full time, my partner still thinks we should pay half each towards everything. as you can imagine, this is impossible for me. you should not pay equal amounts if you don't earn equal amounts. he should not use his daughter as an excuse. if he pays support for her tell him to deduct that from his earnings then work out your finances together. i know i would be happier if my partner allowed me to control all of the household budget but that's more to do with the fact that he is useless with money. however, i believe in having a household income rather than 2 seperate incomes. otherwise you may as well live seperately
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