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writes:Hi I've been dating this guy for a while. and we been through everything.okay frist off I have trust problems, I don't trust anyone. But he came along and he was the one. Like everything I liked he like. But one day I lie to him about not talking to my ex and he found out. We broke up but then we went back out. Now I found out he's been talking to his ex and we argued so much ever since. and I found out he cheated on me 2time. I get so hurt and stress out sometimes,I don't talk to anyone or eat.he has left me for no reason for 2months but he begged for me back and I gave in. and now I don't trust!! him at all. Like do you blame me? Ever since that one time I lied I've never lied again to him, I've never cheated. I love him so much I don't know why he can't see that. and know he's friends with this girl I really do know like, she sleeps around a lot. I just don't know what to do. My heart is so broken. But all the this he has done. I for give him ever time. It just makes me mad cause he take my love for grainted. and when he's mad he say some hurtful stuff. I need help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2009): ok honestly this is both his and your fault. You for not trusting him and him for not trusting you.
Trust is everything in a relationship and the moment its gone all your going to do is hurt eachother, which you have been doing. Sadly when you first broke up that should have been that.
So its time to let him go, chalk it upto experence and promise yourself you wont make the same mistakes again.
Finally never bring baggage into a new relationship as it always wrecks it. Judge people on how they are not how others are. Afterall you wouldnt want your next bf to not trust you from the start would you?
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reader, Lovesux31 +, writes (24 December 2009):
 People can say Move on and get over it, but it's not that easy.. I know it isn't... BUT you can either give him the ultimatum to chose you over ol girl and if he wants to be friends with the other chick, let him... Make your own friends.. play the game with him!! I know its hard to get away from someone when your used to being with him.. so if you can't be away from him.. be with him and play that game with him...BUT your wasting your life away at the same time... YOu'll find yourself by yourself later in life, because you were busy playing a game with his sorry butt~~
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 December 2009):
It's simple, Dump him, spend all the time you need to getting over him, and move on. He will never stop hurting you, he will never stop using you and you'll never be happy with him. You need to be brave and move on.
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reader, lovemyboo16 +, writes (24 December 2009):
been there girl, done that. trust me, not worth it!!!! in the end, (whether u know it or not now) it isn't going to last. no worries, men come and go. my man, at the time, was like that. took me 2 years to get over him and find a REAL man. hes not right for u. its obvious. dont just let a man rule u. its like being a dog. just a pet. not the true love of their life. get over him. hes not all that. trust me ive been there. guess what? i got over that ass, and found real true love. u can too. u just have to put yourself 1st. tell then, hes just gonna use u
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reader, JustMex +, writes (24 December 2009):
 Talking to your ex isn't a big deal, but it gets blown out of proportion when he's heard it from someone else, and then starts imagining what else you've done (which also means he never trusted you, not really.) In future I would just let them know, before they hear it from anyone else (who is most likely trying to stirr things up)This doesn't make he did okay either, IMO he's done much worse, but in his eyes he may see it as being 'even' especially if he still thinks you did more than talk to your ex. I can't tell you what to do, but, you need to consider your options. 1. Stay in a relationship where there is no respect or trust, or2. Break things off, give yourself time to heal and in future when looking for a boyfriend, make sure there are no lies right from the beginning? You should be feel happy, loved and trusted in a relationship, not heart broken.
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