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writes:I am a married woman and my husband never seems to want sex i feel like its me maybe he doesnt fancy me anymore.i mean i love him so much and want to have sex more and i have tried talking to him and he just says things will be different and then it was for the first week and its just back to same thing its seems like nothing has changed we might have sex once a week which last 5 mins and its the same day of the week the same position and im just so fed up i feel like i am not as close to him anymore yet i love him so much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2012): I do understand your feelings, however, you should do something about it. You should ask yourself whether there are any stressful events that are influencing him. Or else it could be that he is just not interested at the moment. You should however give him his time while you take yours. I am not saying that it is your fault that he is keeping away from you. However, you should do your best to stimulate things. Maybe get new clothes, new style, get a new hairstyle, new perfume, maybe put on new make up, try new underwear. You could undress in front of him so that he notices the new lingerie. And just smile for him.
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reader, BobbyC  +, writes (2 February 2012):
I used to have the same problem with my wife. My sex drive was high but I didn't want my wife to satisfy me. I masturbated when she was away from home.
She was apparently worried about me not wanting sex. She repeatedly told me that she loved me. Her desperation just made things worse.
I didn't feel loved by her. Yes, she repeatedly told me that she did. But she acted selfishly. She pushed me for everything she wanted. My opinion was not important for her although she said it was. She wanted to change me. This was not love.
But it's just my experience. I'm not saying that you have the same problem.
Maybe his mind is simply not focused on sex. Does he have a stressful or exhausting job? Do you have financial problems? Is anyone sick or dying in his family?
Some medicines decrease the sex drive. like anti-depression pills. From my experience, any medicine that makes a man sleepy can kill his sex drive too.
Excuse me for asking. But you are not careless about your appearance, are you? I mean, do you change your outfit regularly? Do you throw away your old underwear regularly? Any unpleasant smells down there? ...
Are there any unnecessary links between your sex life and other parts of your life?
I strongly recommend that you don't act worried or desperate at all. You will make things worse. Be the confident, sexy girl you are and do what girls usually do. Love him the way he is. Sometimes wear a sexy outfit for him. Cook for him. Most important: Smile for him.
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