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writes:I think I really hurt my mom really bad. So we were eating breakfast and my mom starts talking about my wieght. She always does we can't go a date without the subject I know she really cares for me. She cares for my health because I'm obese. But I think I went out of line when I told her to stop bothering me if she wouldn't love me she should had aborted me. She got up and said she never expected me to go that low. I get it she worries but she naggs me but yet doesn't help or push me. I need help how can I make things better. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to everyone. I apologize and we had a heart to heart conversation I think that's exactly what we need it. Thank you all very much made me realize a lot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): "I get it she worries but she naggs me but yet doesn't help or push me. I need help how can I make things better."
No one can push you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): There is no point in lashing out at your mother, tell her you are sorry and are ready to start taking your health seriously. If you love your mother, you will understand how hard it must be for her to watch her child grow up and be so unhealthy and so unwilling to do anything about it. I understand it isn't easy, and its a very personal, emotional thing to do; admitting there is a problem with your weight, but at the same time trying to convince yourself your appearence is fine.
you can change things for the better, and you already have your mum for support. that is a good step in the right direction.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (2 February 2012):
 First you should apologize for that mean, hurtful comment. Your mother obviously loves you very much.
She is trying to help you with your weight but it seems as if she doesn't know how to really help you. Have you been to the doctor about your obesity? Maybe discuss your options, inquire about the gastric band.
Also, you have to want to lose weight. No one can make or push you into doing it. It all boils down to your drive to lose weight and self discipline. It's a lifestyle change that you have to want to make.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (1 February 2012):
 Just go to her and say i am really sorry, mom, i just felt really upset about my weight and i just said that, but i didn't meant it. Please forgive me. Sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2012): I suggest you go and apologise for that comment but then calmly explain why you said it. Then just repeat in more detail what you've written in your post - that her nagging isn't helping and is obviously beginning to upset/frustrate you.Losing weight at you age is up to you. So maybe think about what it is you would like to do to be able to lose weight and then ask your mom for specific help, instead of expecting her to do it all. E.g when I was in your situation I asked my mum first to go on power walks with me, then (when fitter) play badminton as I was too embarrassed to with friends. Also I asked her to not buy and bring home certain foods, like chocolate.If your mom refuses then you can make more of a point about how her nagging is pointless and not accomplishing anything.
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