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writes: hi everyone thanks for reading this post. Basically I am engaged to a lovely man and I love him dearly - we met online 2 yrs ago and are getting married in 2009. We have a very happy relationship however we haven't had sex in the last year and I find this very hard to deal with. My partner has a heart condition which means he gets puffed easily and neither of us instigage sex. Just recently I have been thinking about having no strings attached sex with someone else - i've tried to talk to my partner but we are just not compatible in that one way. It is tearing me apart as I love him and do not want to cheat on him but I really don't know what to do.Thanks for reading.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (8 November 2007):
 Hi
Have you realized that if you marry this guy, it would be like this forever.Do you wanna enter a marriage like this?From your post i sense that if you do enter into that marriage then you are bound to seek the attention else where. I think you should get out of this relationship before it is too late and find someone that is able to give you everything you desire.
Regards,mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): is he masturbating? I find it hard to believe that he has absolutely no desires what so ever! he has an obligation to take care of your needs or you deserve to find someone who will take care of them for you.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 If you love him, and plan on marrying him, then what you have to do is continue loving him. True love is where you put this relationship and your fiance above personal desire. If you really love him, cheating then is not an option. If you do choose to cheat, you must tell him your plans. It would be selfish and unfair to enter into marriage deceiving him. If you are sharing your body with someone other than him, you need to tell him, because the only respectable thing to do is allow him the choice if he's willing to put up with that sort of behavior in a marriage or not. That's his right, and he deserves to make that decision.
Maybe you can talk to his doctor and find out if they know methods that may work.
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reader, misshome +, writes (7 November 2007):
Well if both of you don't eniciate sex theres a problem,,, no sex!! If you want to have sex that bad and maybe hes shy or is just in love with you enough not need sex either way then its up to you to try to bing sex up. The guy doesn't have to do it all the time. Sex isn't everything i know im a guy and my fiancee and I have sex like 4 times a day, but im in iraq now for 15 months so i just dont have sex anymore, i still love her the same. Either talk to him, have sex with him, or leave him just dont cheat on him, thats the wrong answer.
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