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anonymous
writes:I met a guy online over 2 years ago...I fell in love with him and he me.I met him for the first time in real for 2 weeks in January and well im even more in love now than I ever was, we get along soo much better in real than what we do online and I can honesty say that, that is something because we do get along amazingly online.He loved me, he loved my body, we did have sex (the whole holiday most definately wasnt based around sex however, more about doing everyday things together, ice-skating, cinema etc) he loved to touch me, hold my hand, kiss my head every now and then etc...which is why id like to know why am i still so insecure?I am not a thin girl...im a UK size 22 for those who know how big that is (not huge but still big) I do envy those with gorgeous bodies because i personally want to be a size 10/12 but thanks to medical issues i cant lose weight easily so its something i am battling with.Anyways I constantly think he is going to leave me for some gorgeous girl with a perfect body, i seem to really think if some hot girl comes along he is going to want her and picture himself with her and bla bla bla I have no confidence whatsoever...he tells me how much he loves my body and he has touched it and he goes on about how he loves that it can jiggle, YUCK i know, i dont find that appealing at all but each to their own.But anyways...help...I dont know why im still like this and i really do want to over come it and maybe some advice on a good way to boost my self esteem because i dont think it can get any lower to be honest.
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reader, partly to blame  +, writes (1 March 2011):
hello. consider me as your big sister, being older than you are for a few years..
beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. consider yourself lucky to have found someone who loves you as you are.you are beautiful, inside and out. remember that God created each of us as a unique being, you have something that others don't have. you are beautiful because someone has seen your loveliness. our bodies are mere facade of what we really are. what counts is how we see ourselves and how God sees us.
you deserve to be happy, everybody does. keep loving him without holding back so he will love you with the same intensity..
live simply. be happy. you are beautiful. God loves you..
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reader, ..  +, writes (1 March 2011):
Personally, I can say that I have not met a single girl who is happy with her body. Everyone has their insecurities, and I know they can be really hard to deal with; but from what you've said I think he really loves you.
I myself am not happy with my image, but I think the best anyone can do to improve self esteem is find time for yourself, to remove negative thoughts; have a hot bath, take care of yourself, go have a coffee, get some nice jewellery and clothes that you feel good in, or just go window shopping. If money is an issue; go to discount stores. They usually have interesting things that you can't find anywhere else. That's where I go. :"D
And on the confidence; all I can say is fake it til you make it. Confidence is appealing to everyone. Seriously. Take a look at people on the street. There are some people stick thin, some with gorgeous faces and some with beautiful smiles. The difference is that you can always tell if somebody's uncomfortable. Acting confident will change the way other people see you.
Hope this helps~ :)
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reader, StarryEyes101 +, writes (1 March 2011):
 GUYS LIKE BIG GIRLS!!!
It's true. You don't see it very often but it does happen and it's such a good thing to see. My friend is a size 26 (UK), and her boyfriend is skinnier than a prawn lol but they get on perfectly it's unbelievable =)
Don't feel insecure about yourself. He loves you for you. He wouldn't visit otherwise. You sound like a great couple and I take my hat off to him for being Awesome =D
Hope this helps..
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reader, Ms. Intuition  +, writes (1 March 2011):
i totally know where you are coming from. Sometimes its hard to love you for you. I was where u are most of my post puberty life. I am african. You may not know this, but in this part of the world, almost always- bigger is better. And there i was 5 foot 2, weighing 45 kgs. I was so skinny, pimply, flat.... Just walking around and seeing other girls was a painful reminder of everything i'm not. I totally understand where u are coming from.Now, i am still abit insecure but not as much. What i can tell you is, you need to love you for you. Not all guys are as shallow as we make them out to be. This guy loves u. And u got along fabulously before he even saw you. And trust me, if he didnt like what he saw after meeting u, some of the spark you two have would have been lost. I know ho hard it is to feel unperfect all the time but theres more to you than your looks. You're a beautiful unique person who has a lot to offer to the world. Live in the moment and cherish this guy. Dont focus on your insecurities. Love you for you!
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