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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Me and my man have been together for a year now but have been close friends for nine years. Once our relationship started he changed(slowly) now wont even open up to me like he used to. He has commitment issues, as well as i, from being hurt in the past. So this is his reason for the change in communication but he has also cheated on me is talkin to other girls(that he claim are nobodies). I love him to death i believe he love me but i dont trust him. I dont if i should stay. Does it make sense to love be committed to someone u dont trust???
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): If you were friends for nine years then you know something of his character. Surely you would know whether or not he was trustworthy? Did he confide in you about his relationships? Did he cheat on anyone?
Has he actually cheated on you or just talked to other girls?
It may be quite scary for him now because you are closer than before and he could get hurt. How much do you open up to him? And do you let him know how much you love him?
If you've tried all that, suggest couples counselling.
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reader, bardia +, writes (2 February 2012):
 No. Let that be a resounding no! I was in a similar situation. I always felt he had one foot out the door. We were together over a year. Guys who claim they've been "hurt so badly" by previous relationships and who then have "difficulty with committment" are just plain full of it. If it was that bad, they need professional help. But I think more often than not it's because THEY wanted to have their cake & eat it too and whomever they were with previously wouldn't put up with their BS. You're too young to be jerked around by a loser attention-whore like this. Leave him & find someone who loves you & appreciates you as much as you do them. This one certainly is not worth your precious life.
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