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anonymous
writes:I and my boyfriend are together over 2 years. Last year I broke up for 2 months then gave him a chance but this time I want him to text me as much as he can or want him to see me Fri-Sat-Sunday. He texted me whenever he went out or saw me three times in a week. He usually drives through the highway and pay $13 everytime he sees me. All of a sudden, his actions changed towards me and started to complain that I never sacrifice for him even though I did. He told me that he spoiled me too much and I get used to be comfortable and has to be 50-50. But for me to go his house takes me 2 hours and I do not drive.I offered him to meet up in the middle but during the day.This way it will be 50-50 and I will go back to home by bus. He was mad and told me "He also wants to see me at night" but I wasn't happy that one because it will not be 50-50 and he will complain what he did later on or he was not happy about my suggestion. All of a sudden, he asked me"so how are we gonna have sex? you will not come to my house anymore? I told him, "unless it is a family thing, I will not be there"He was pissed and fought.I do not wanna be part time cause he told me whenever he can, he will see me. I gave him a chance and he promised me that I wont be part time but now everything is going back to past.What should I do?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (2 February 2012):
 In order for this to work you both have to give and take...in this LDR(?).
You both need to devise a schedule of what will work for the both of you as far as visitations go. That means him driving to you in the evening on some days, and you taking the bus the rest of the week. You two may not see each other 7 days out of the week but it's better than nothing.
COMPROMISE. If you two can't bring yourself to do that, and be happy with the time you have together then this relationship isn't going to work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): There could be other compromises and you need to discuss these. One possibility might be that sometimes you give him the $13 dollars he has to pay. Or that you go to his house and stay the whole weekend. He could pick you up halfway and take you back halfway. You don't say how long it takes him to drive over to see you.
Look into the possibilities together. With your one suggestion he could think you are withholding sex to punish him.
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