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writes:I met probably one of the greatest girls of all time last summer. We met in stats class and began going out from there on. after a couple of weeks of getting to know each other we started dating and I asked her to be my girlfriend. Around our three month mark she was accepted to a university in Arizona. We discussed what we should do and ultimately decided to try the long distance relationship. Now she wasn't to leave until January when school started. We chose to try this because we fell in love with each other and I can honestly say I loved her and still do, and I know she loved me. When I was with her I felt like a great we, shared the same interests in how we felt about family and friends we played board games went to movies and dinner and we went on trips. I had a great time being with her. when she left it was hard, but we made it and saw each other during spring break. During a phone call we were talking and she broke down and told me she hated not being able to be with me, this hurt me in a way that I can't explain, I felt the same, this is when I realized that it is going to be like this for several years. So a few days she came back and we hung out and had a good time. The next day I told I didn't think we could go on like this any more the distance was killing me, I loved her and still do but I want to be with her all the time, I'm going to school and she is going to school in another state, to me it would get harder. I thought about waiting till the end of summer but I knew it would hurt more for both of us. I broke up with her face to face and it was the hardest thing I have had to ever do because there was nothing wrong with how I felt about her or vice versa, I just feel I couldn't do the distance and I told her the truth, it's not fair for both of us, I won't be able to go and she because I will soon be going to the police academy I just don't want her to worry about me cheating on her or meeting someone else, the same goes for me. I tried to convince myself to try and work at it more and she tried to get me not to do it, but it's just so hard to be away from somebody you truly love and have feelings for. I feel crappy, but my friends and family have been supportive so that is helping out alot. I guess my question is, is there anybody that has gone through this same thing or something similar? and if so do you have any advice for me on how to deal with this break up?
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reader, Brandi +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Well I think that you should tell her that you want to give it a break until she comes back. Then get back toegther. Just becasue that you are in a long distance relation ship that you can not still love each other.
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