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writes:Oi, I need help, aunts!Okay. Let me start off by saying I am in a relationship with a guy whom I love very much, and who loves me. We are happy together, and things are going smoothly. My relationship at home is not my problem. However, I'm staying the summer with my father in the Virgin Islands [he's here on work] - over 2,000 miles away from home - and while my boyfriend and I have decided to stay together over the summer break, and simply enjoy ourselves. We've been talking online and on the phone, and everything's good.Here in the islands, my stepmother's friend has a son, and that son has a male friend. I met her son and his friend the other day, and we goofed around a bit, just talked and hung out at the beach, since it's within walking distance and the islands are beautiful. I see these boys as friends, and only friends. They both know I have a boyfriend at home. However, they've been telling my stepmother's friend that they want to see me again, and she says they've been talking about me a lot. They don't know any girls our age on the island, and the son told my stepmother's friend that they both like me.This is a problem. I would love to be friends with them both, as they're both fun people, but I would never DREAM of cheating, and I am NOT breaking up with my boyfriend for one of these guys - I'll never see them after this summer! So any kind of relationship beyond a casual friendship is out of the queston! How can I make it clear to them that I JUST want to be friends. I don't want to make this an awkward friendship, but I DO want them to understand the way I feel about this.So how can i explain it without putting myself in an even more difficult situation?Any help is GREATLY appreciated.Thanks in Advance!xox 3 Reply to this Question
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reader, reatachi +, writes (30 June 2007):
reatachi is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you everyone =] Your help is greatly appreciated.
My stepmother's friend's son (oi, complicated. haha) is a troublemaker apparently, and my stepmother has decded that I should avoid him. So, while I'm sorry to miss an oppurtunity at a friend, this pretty much takes care of it. But nonetheless, I thank everyone for your help!
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reader, DIE-romantic.  +, writes (29 June 2007):
 Your commitment to your boyfriend is outstanding. Hes a very lucky guy. Just be straight with the other geezer, tell him that your not prepared to cheat on your boyfriend and you want to be friends, thats all. And your not prepared to throw a good relationship away for a fling. Hope it goes well for you. :]
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reader, Sbrwneyes +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Just be straight forward with him babe. Tell him that you have a boyfriend and that you're not looking for a "fling" or another relationship. If you love your boyfriend, then you should have no problem saying this to the other guy. It's great that you would never dream of cheating. He has a good girlfriend. =)-Good luck.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (28 June 2007):
First of all I think its great that you have the will power to being so dedicated to your relationship with your bf. The best thing to do is when you see these guys next talk about your bf alot, just say how much you care about him and love him etc and they should get the hint that you arent interested in being anymore then friends. If though they dont for some reason and they make any moves thne you just have to come straight out and tell them how you feel.
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reader, Brandi +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Hey well just tell them when they try to move farther NO i have a boyfriend. It is ok if they talk about you there is nothing wrong about that.
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