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writes:I'm 14 and I'm in love with a girl that hates me very much but I love her I can't get over her I have tryed to get over her but I can't she didin't hate me always she was first very nice to me and then she said to me that I'm pathetic and then she is started to hate me but she diden't now that im in love with her I told her when she started to hate me she says to me get over me but i can't I think the whole day of her and in school I watch to her very long and she do'n't likes that she says that I stalk but I just love her very much can you please tell me how to get a girl that hates me?
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reader, petronius  +, writes (24 December 2012):
hey mate... my problem is similar but slightly more frustrating Because she gives me soooo many opportunities but i keep passing them up well obviously im not a real man. my advice. DONT LET UP!!! im not saying you should become obsessive with her, just make sure she knows you don't care how she feels about you, you still feel for her. if somehtings wrong... ask. if she rebuffs you dont press it too hard but dont just give up and not ask ever again. dont try and flirt with her just talk to her like she's any other person. be civil and yourself, ask her to pass the book over or whatever. just get her so shes comfortable to talk to you. then just keep this up till she realises you're not creepy and just someone who cares. then you know... mabye you'll get together after a while. if it doesn't go that far in the end then just think. if you love her but cant have her, bneing able to talk to her civily is at least better than being hated right?
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reader, MK201107  +, writes (22 October 2011):
"I love her but she hates me so much she even accused me of stalking her!"I'd been accused of stalker too. I'm bothered, still in the process to move on. Still crying when I think of her. I only want is to write her, talk to her, and still be friends. Still hard to accept, but it happens. When will stop this question to my head, When we will talk again?, when we will see each other again? Is this called Love? I know when I'm small I cry, I know when I grow up I will stop crying. But why? day or night thinking of her, think of her then I cry, when will this stop. Upto what time will this suffering stop. 3 months had already passed, is it 3 more years to wait, or is it 30 years more so she can accept my apology or just to say Hi! to me, that's all I want, that we can talk and say hello to each other, but she finish it already. Still feel sad and waiting.What I want to say, your not only one, it happens to me now.
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reader, lampard +, writes (3 November 2009):
listen guys if u love a girl dont never ever show ur love to them bcoz if u do they will hates u an keep ignorin u an the second thing which is the important thing don.t be he slave dnt listen to evrything she say to u if that does.nt work ignore her back and c hw she wil likes it. Gud luk mate
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): Hey i am also in such a kind of condition but i am 20 she knew that i love her and she just know it all the time and she spent the time as if she don't know it at all and this is where i get caught i thought that she loves me too but when i proposed her she said no.And she told me don't take it to heart.So i tried to move on which hurts me and i am unable to move on and she is hating me more that anything and she is good with everyone except me it hurts more than anything.What can i do now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): Think for a moment.
Do you really love her?
If your answer is yes, then read on.
I've experienced a similar situation to yours and am now doing great. I am 18 & have the perfect girlfriend, been dating for about 4 yrs. And this girlfriend was the same girl that first started out hating me then dislike-normal-friends-like and now love. Just follow my tips as I walk you through the phases. However this may NOT work if you don't do the followed instructions correctly.
This is the Let Go-Bait-Take-&Reel In strategy. Girls are like fish, there are many of them but some are diificult to catch. You tried to reel em` in but failed. Tried again, then failed. No matter how much you try, you just can't catch her. So now you just let go. Yep, MOVE ON. Stop acting so interested, and everytime you bump into her, don't apologize, act like a jerk. She'll be confused. Now, you're probably like, this will just get me slapped. WRONG. Treat her like dirt and chances are if you act man enough, you'll have her in no time. Keep this up for 2-3 weeks, then flirt with her 1-2 days a week and special occasians 3. This is a surefire way to get her thinking about you. Only drop the bad boy phase til' you're SURE she's fallen head over heels with ya. Girls DON`T like wimps, don't be her slave. You must either be her superior or equal. NEVER less. During this time, you should STOP being a jerk, and should be an occasional rebel to keep her hooked. Girls don`t like jerks but they don't hate em` either, but they do like bad boys. Jerks & bad boys are 2 whole different genres of people, look em up. At the end make the girl think she [changed] you into her supposedly dream guy. "Sensitive, funny, cute, sweet, etc." But remember never a slave, always an equal & also ALWAYS act like yourself, girls HATE fakes. ;] Good luck mate with your lovelife, & if things don`t work out, theres always more fish in the sea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2008): HiAt school there are 2 boys who are younger than me who did on purposly follow me for 3 weeks, every break and lunch time just so I would give the my contact details. I obviosuly refused over and over again but they were just soo fixed on the idea that I would and because I am a very busy person at school and don't get much time to myself because I help alot around the school it was really beginning to stress me out. The thing the boys didn't relise was they were adding to my stress because they were too busy in their own world which made me angry at them and I felt like I couldn't deal with them as they started to get there friends to follow me. In the end I had to tell a teacher because it was effecting my concentration in class and they don't follow me as much.So my answer to your question is I would forget about her because she is saying she hates you, and in my experience she is trying to give you a very clear message, move on. Good luck with what ever you choose to do and I'm sure you don't follow her but maybe you should listen to what she is trying to tell you.xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): I have a great solution. worked for me. I had the same problem as you. The girl I loved called me a stalker too I'm 15 in grade 10. I've loved this girl grade 6 but 2 years ago she found out and started hating me more than ever. There are 6 levels to climb. 1st Hating, 2nd not liking, 3rd not caring, 4th Friendly, 5th liking and 6th love.This is what I did. I told all of my friends and her friends that I stopped liking her and studied hare for the classes she was with me. I acted nice to everyone, especially her friends. You need to have a good relationship with her best friends.When I talk to her friends and she is with them I would laugh and have fun with them. I would look at her and when she looks at me I would stop laughing and that would make her wonder why I stopped laughing and then she went from hating me to not liking me and not caring for me. It is not love yet but this is enough for me. I talked to her after 404 days on 405th day I asked her what she got in history and I said damn, you beat me by half and she talks to me for 10 seconds and I was really happy. Good luck with your love.
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reader, joshie boy +, writes (17 October 2008):
hi im in the exact same position m8, today i heard her say to someone that she might cry and i heard her say it was my fault but i dont stalk her i just go to my lessons at school and she is in all my lessons all her friends say STOP STALKING and i get really annoyed i used to be her friend but now she hates me iits so depressing im so angry and upset why did it have 2 be this way i LOVE HER CANT SHE ACCEPT THAT!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2008): All u need to do is exercise little patience but dont give her a chance to know dat u give up on her.meet her twice in a week and call her on her phone just to say hi and dont say long story even if she is dragging u towards dat .let her know how u feel about.dont intervene any third party.good luck.samson
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reader, little_goth_bladez +, writes (17 September 2008):
i am in the totally same situation except ive loved her for 2 years im 14 and ive loved her since yr 7-9 along time and i still havnt got over her and when i saw ur blog to be honest i thought i had written it before so yeah try and not be to staring and dont do stupid things like i do and try and impress them or show off or beat her boyfriends up yeah uh dont do tht one i kinda did now she hates me even more but still if u truly love her state it too her if shes mean just say to be honest ur lucky tht if u can be tht mean towards you tht u even like her
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): uhhhh first you have to promise not to turn emo..seriously i had a friend who was just like you and he turned emo because the girl that he loved said some pretty harsh things to him... anyway dont stare at her all the time cuz its pretty freaky. yea i learned that lesson. and dont stalk her either because its weird. try leaving her alone for about 2 weeks and she'll probably start to think that your not so pathetic anymore and she'll start thinking about you. if that doesnt work...then dude..move on
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): Having undergone a similar experience, I can at least offer you my advice. I spent a solid 3 months moping and hating life after the girl I loved (and still do love on some level) told me that the feeling wasn't mutual. However, writing music is my tick, and it wasn't until I wrote a song about things getting better that I started feeling better. To state how this can help you, I'll break it into points.
1) If she hates you, that's not likely to change, from my experience. Come to terms with the fact that you may never even be friends with her again.
2) It will take a little time to move on.
3) If you are truly in love with her, then you never will completely get over her.
4) The best way to accelerate the process of recovery and move along is to find your own tick, whatever brings you meaning, and take advantage of it.
I hope this helps. Don't dwell on what has already happened, and maybe your future will be brighter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): SWEETHEART
This girl says she hates you, Which in my eyes is not very nice. But when we are young we say alsorts of things we dont understand the meaning of, But hunny she is being mean so you just have to try and carry on the best you can and find new friends and keep her at arms length...If she is so mean to you then why do you let this continue? Its hard at your age when you do like someone but you will realise that there is another girl one day you will like, So try not to let this get you down hunny. Be strong take no notice and have fun with other friends. Some girls do get a little funny if they are being stared at so play it cool dont look so much and she may even be your friend again one day TAKE CARE HUNNY WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): OK honey if she "hates" you then why do you love her . I know it's hard to move on ( believe me I know) but eventually we have to. If she hates you then find someone whos gonna love you back. If you really MUST have this girl . Ask her to start over . clean slate. tell her your sorry for whatever it is that you did to make her hate you and tell her that you'd like to become friends with her . thats a good place to start once you become friends (again) then after a while you can start ot flirt and then maybe ask her out but don't try too hard or too soon and NO STALKING and some glances in her direction is good but staring is kinda creepy .....ok
I hope I helped in some way...
I hope everything works out for you ....let me know how it goes . feel free to message me at any time .
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