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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I can't get over my partner's ex. (It's a long distance thing, but we see each other enough for us to get by)-She's easily upset, and I feel too guilty to go out sometimes, thus missing out the 'prime times of my youth' when she's not out, which is most of the time, because she has a severe lack of confidence.-Due to the ex thing, and the other, which is pretty much a feeling of being trapped, it makes me want to end things every once in a while, but the feeling comes and goes.I've talked to her about the ex thing, but that hasn't helped much, and I'm too scared to say the other incase she gets too upset., expecially when she reminds her that I'm 'all she has'.In a way, i want to stay, and in another way, I want to leave.But if I leave, I'll regret it, i believe, due to the fact that I 'love' her. But I don't know if the real deal's possible at 17..I just want a way to get over everything. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): Hi Hunny
Your g/f has a lack of confidence hunny, What is the actual problem with the ex sweetheart..As you seem to be lacking in confidence as well..You feel trapped is this because you cant go out because your g/f doesnt like it? Or because you feel uncomfortable going out?
It sounds as if she has some problems dealing with certain parts of life and in comes the insecurity sweetheart, Then she tells you..You are all she has, Which makes you feel trapped as you feel love for her but there are many more feelings going through your head hunny if you feel like ending it at times, This is very worrying there is no problem big enough to want to end it for you are strong hunny you just dont feel it at this moment, As alot of negative energy is coming your way and getting you down...
Im going to send you some links on self confidence and depression, I suggest if you are feeling this bad, As talking about ending it at times is bad. You need to see a doctor so you can talk this through with a counsellor....
http://self-esteem.readabout.net/Instilling_Self_Confidence_In-Boys.html
http://www.aware.ie/depression.htm#Depression
Hunny Ive lost 2 very close friends to suicide in the last 2yrs so if you need a chat please message me and ill try to help as much as I can, I hope this links help. But your g/f does need help and she has to realise this and seek that help hunny, You need to concentrate on getting you feeling better...PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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