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*ubedude
writes:So where to begin...I guess five years back when I met this girl I swore would become my wife...She is from Italy and is very beautiful! She likes to flaunt her ass around and attract other guys attention but denies knowing this! Through the five years she has told me to go back to my daughters mother(been divorced for 10 years) or to go find another women!At one point I did go find another woman and went to dinner with her...I told my current spouse that I had found a women and we were over... then since it was around Valentines she came to my work in a red skirt outfit looking HOT...to say the least we made up and the other girl disapearred. Now 2 years later I told her once agin I was done putting up with the BS and started sleeping in another room! Told her I would rather be friends than nothing...then 1 morning she came in and to say the least made things good for the moment...I told her right away I wanted a commitment and she agreed...now 2 weeks later she has ignored my long hours at work as why i might be frustrated and she argue to a point iI really mess things up! She has been gone when I get home she has told me we have and never had anything together...she states she was faking it so she didnt hurt me....she has spent the past 3 years helping me make my 1/2 way house appointments so I know she cared then and still does somewhere inside! Anyhow she has threatened and does leave at times going who knows where!I love this lady with all my heart what should I do?
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reader, lubedude +, writes (17 June 2009):
lubedude is verified as being by the original poster of the question I thank all that helped with thier answers...really none tooo far fetched...it was my first night alone in 5 years so that wasnt easy when driving home and realizing it was a empty home...then after I got home no regular routine stuff done ...to say the least no dinner...so here I sit at the computer facing the facts of life! IT SUCKS!!! Thanks again for soooo many fast replys....you all ROCK! this was my first experience on this site and it was very positive! you all will see me around!
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reader, cherry cherry boom boom +, writes (16 June 2009):
You should just let her go she sounds like she don't care about your feelings and you deserve some one better. She will have it coming for her cause the womans so heartless. This ya girl peace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): I know it wont be an answer you wqould like to read but when I read this the first thing I thought was what are you getting out of this?? It sounds like the only thing she is really willing to give you is passion...and that won't last forever. You don't know where she goes the numerous times she walks out, she could be anywhere, and I know you love her with all your heart but the way i see it is that she'll end up breaking your heart eventually if she doesnt love you back. It would be easier to make the seperation now, don't let her walk all over you because that is what she is doing, she knoes you'll always take her back.
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reader, laura585 +, writes (16 June 2009):
Sounds like she has commitment issues. Maybe she's just one of those people who like to have their cake and eat it too. If you are serious about making a commitment, you should find someone who is also serious. You two playing games with eachother by getting other people involved is just hurting eachother wether y'all admit it or not. She definately knows she's attractive, and knows how to get what she wants. The decision is yours: do you want to continue with a woman who is only commited to you halfway? Or should you move on and find someone who will cherish you? It will be hard to let her go, but you have to do what will make you happy in the end. Be honest with yourself, and honest with her about any decisions you make, and don't get blind-sided by her beauty in the process!!
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (16 June 2009):
I think you need to take a step back and sum it all up, the relationship has been on and off for so long, it goes back on for all the wrong reasons and you constantly going back to each other knowing that it doesnt work is unhealthy or you both, its not just a coincidence that things dont work out, there are reasons, some people love each other but cant live with each other. In parts of your post you speak with maturity, in other parts i think that maybe you are thinking of this for all the wrong things, she may well be hot but what you have together doesnt work. Shes flirty and that bothers you, jealousy is a normal feeling so dont worry too much about that, if you let all the little things get to you it will all eat up what you have left.Maybe you both need to sit down talk like adults and come to a descion and stick to it, your both old enough to know what you want, the hard part is doing it and sticking to it. If you really love her youll do the right thing, it takes two to make it work and in some parts i feel your ahead of her, i dont feel shes as commited as you, proven recently. You cant live your life on threats and wondering will she leave and if so where has she gone? Its not right, you need to get the balance right or its not worth a thing. Talk to her.Best of luck
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reader, GabiLC +, writes (16 June 2009):
 It doesn't sound like you love her really. Loving her comes with loving her attitude, faults, and flaws. It sounds like you love the sex more than anything. I would suggest that you move on. You don't seem like you want your life to continue on the rollercoaster that you're on. I'm sure you will easily find another woman to suit you. I hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): Hi don't feel for this. You try to your level best you can easily attract her and you don't get disappointment in this regard ok . Then once again i tell about your affection on her:) so impress her by doing the things what she expect and speak with her frankly about your feeling on her ok take care friend
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